(Closed) You knew it was coming…Did you act surprised?

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Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Did you know it was coming?  

Yes, I picked out the ring and I knew he had picked it up

Were you kind of expecting it all day?  

I didn’t know what day it would be, I expected it would be during a trip so I brought lots of cute dresses so I’d always be photo ready (it happened on the plane on the way there with me in my sweats)

Were you still surprised or did you just act surprised?  

I was completely shocked. There was no acting surprised at all.

How did you keep yourself under control (and not smile like an idiot/giggle/have a heart attack everytime he bent over to tie his shoe- all day)? 

I was completely oblivious when he came back from the bathroom and told me it was my turn (I had to go to the bathroom so he could transfer the ring from the carry on bag to his pocket), or when he almost had a meltdown about having a middle seat on the plan (can’t exactly kneel in the middle seat) or when he told me I couldn’t listen to my ipod because I had to save the battery for the longer flight.

Honestly it doesn’t matter whether you know or not, the moment will still be so emotional you’ll get totally wrapped up in it.

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Did you know it was coming?

Yes and no, I thought it would be on my birthday, but it was the week after.  

Were you kind of expecting it all day?  

The day he proposed, Fiance told me he was coming to my work to give me my birthday gift (it wasn’t ready until after my birthday, but then we went on holidays so he went to pick it up the day after we got home and promptly came to my office!)  I thought it would be either the engagement or the telescope I really wanted lol.

Were you still surprised or did you just act surprised?  

I wasn’t surprised, but now that I think of it, I can’t remember how I acted. 

How did you keep yourself under control (and not smile like an idiot/giggle/have a heart attack everytime he bent over to tie his shoe- all day)?

We went for lunch right after he proposed, and I think we sat at the restaurant smiling at each other the whole time lol.  We both had to go back to work after, and then he went golfing that night and I went to look at a house (ours had just sold and we were pressed to find a new one!) so I didn’t see him again till later that night. 

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Did you know it was coming?  

I had absoutely no idea, none at all. 

We had been together for 6.5 years. It was our first vacation in two years, I had lost my job the day before we went on vacation…my employer told me she hoped I would have a great time….bitch. (I was sobbing as I packed for our trip the night before, while Fiance told me that everything would be okay and I’d find another job.).

First Hint I didn’t pickup on:The week before I had picked up some jewelry and clothes on super sale for the trip….he is picky about jewelry. I had bought some costume-e big rings and such….he told me to return them all because I wouldn’t really have a chance to wear them again after vacation (which is true, sneaky sneaky guy).

Were you kind of expecting it all day?  

Second Hint I didn’t pickup on: The second day we were walking around and helping our friend pick out some jewelry for his girlfriend that was joining us later that afternoon. He kept asking me did I like this…or that. We weren’t looking at diamonds or gemstones so it wasn’t super expensive…I kept picking jewelry that was a bit more bling-e then I’d usually pick; it susprised him.

Were you still surprised or did you just act surprised?  

I was completely shocked…when he asked he started out by saying my full name…he’s never said that before. It was bizarre, lol.

How did you keep yourself under control (and not smile like an idiot/giggle/have a heart attack everytime he bent over to tie his shoe- all day)?

I guess he had the ring with him everywhere. He didn’t trust keeping it in the hotel room and every time I got close to any of his pockets he said his heart was racing. 

OR, Did you ever really believe it was going to happen….and it didn’t? 

After being together for so long, there were definately times when I thought it might happen. I had two requests. I wanted it to be a total surprise and I wanted it to happen before 7 years (we can have a long engagement, I just think after 7 years it’s nice to have a ring). 

How did you cope?

He proposed in a small boat. We were both sitting down and I couldn’t stand up or shake about. He got the whole thing on video…TWICE. Our friends were in the boat facing us and pretending they were taking random pictures…they were recording the whole time.

I cried and was in shock for a bit. We had somewhere to be soon after so I didn’t get to bask a whole lot. Through-out the night I kept touching the ring and was kind of in a haze; sometimes I still can’t believe it happened. I can’t believe I didn’t catch on, everyone in his family knew but me!!!!!!!

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Did you know it was coming?  We’d been talking about getting engaged, and I knew he wanted to ask my dad.  Since we live thousands of miles away from my parents I was pretty sure that the question had been asked on the last visit… especially after my parents started to act EVEN odder and plan my wedding for me!  But I didn’t know exactly what day it would happen.

Were you kind of expecting it all day?  No, I thought we were getting out of town for my birthday & because work had been crazy.  But I did suspect it at the last 5 – 10 minutes.  (This is the first time I’ve confessed.  I’m still telling him he COMPLETELY surprised me!! shhh!!!!)

Were you still surprised or did you just act surprised?  He acted weird when he went to get the ring out of his luggage, and shooed me outside.  I thought “I wonder if he’s getting a ring?  This would be a nice proposal weekend!” But then I tried to ignore that, because who wants to be disappointed??

So when he got down on one knee, I had pushed those thoughts to the back of my mind and was slightly confused for a second!!  I got teary eyed as soon as I caught on!

How did you keep yourself under control (and not smile like an idiot/giggle/have a heart attack everytime he bent over to tie his shoe- all day)? He wore flip flops. – It’s HOT in Texas in July!!  Most of the day we were in pretty public places.  A public proposal isn’t his (or MY!) style.  Plus, I really didn’t expect it that day.

OR, Did you ever really believe it was going to happen….and it didn’t? I thought he would propose while we were on vacation visiting our families about 10 days earlier.  We even went to look at the bridge where I want to get married!  While we were there he announced ” I guess I ought to ask your dad.” … “And buy a ring.”

How did you cope? I told him not to wait too long.  I’m a good catch and wouldn’t wait around forever.  Then I gave him a kiss to soften the jab. (We hadn’t been together THAT long, and I wasn’t really on the verge of leaving.) 

But I was a little crushed.  I’d really been hoping that we’d get engaged in Maine that week; it’s going to be months (Thanksgiving??) before my family can see my ring in person.  And Maine is still “home” for both of us – so it would have been a sweet story.  But I realized that a sparkly ring didn’t mean that he loved me more, it didn’t define our relationship.  I’d marry him someday, and he’d ask when he was ready and the time was right.  So I quit obsessing.  (It was a turning point.  I’d actually been kind of nuts up until that moment!)  That might have been why I wasn’t more suspicious of the REAL proposal!

Post # 21
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Did you know it was coming?  Yes, totally. We’d talked about it but hadn’t made a specific plan. I knew he wanted to do something special.

Were you kind of expecting it all day?  Completely. We went to Disneyland and he wore a button down shirt, lol. Who wears a fancy shirt to and nice shoes to Disneyland?

Were you still surprised or did you just act surprised?  Neither. I wasn’t surprised and I didn’t act surprised, but it was still special. I didn’t see any reason to pretend, it wasn’t like it was out of the blue or anything. I was surprised by the ring wihich I hadn’t seen, so that was nice I guess.

How did you keep yourself under control (and not smile like an idiot/giggle/have a heart attack everytime he bent over to tie his shoe- all day)? I’m not really the giggly type. I figured he wanted to wait until the end of the day, so I just put it out of my mind and had fun. I did notice that he went to the bathroom a lot! Lol, he said he kept checking the ring (which was in his pocket) to make sure it was still there 🙂

OR, Did you ever really believe it was going to happen….and it didn’t? Yea, that would suck. That’s one reason I didn’t let myself get out of control about it. I was 95% sure but no reason to psych yourself out.

How did you cope? It’s kinda funny because as soon as he talked about a Dineyland trip I thought “Proposal”, but he says he didn’t think about doing it there until weeks later. Guys just think different than girls. Be excited if it happens but don’t have a panic attack if it doesn’t.

 

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Did you know it was coming?  Yes, we talked about it and he took me to pick out the ring.

Were you kind of expecting it all day?  No, the thought of him proposing that day crossed my mind, but I really didn’t think he would cuz it was Valentine’s Day and that is kinda cliche. I also didn’t even know that he had picked up the ring.

Were you still surprised or did you just act surprised? I was surprised actually and now when I look back on it, I should have gotten all the signs that it was going to happen (such as he kept asking me to go up on the deck of the boat when it was freezing outside and he seemed rather nervous).

How did you keep yourself under control (and not smile like an idiot/giggle/have a heart attack everytime he bent over to tie his shoe- all day)? I don’t think he bent down to tie his shoe that day (at least not around me). Haha.

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Did you know it was coming? 

Yes, we went and looked at rings.

Were you kind of expecting it all day?  

I thought it might happen that day because it was Nov 11, and we have a cutesy thing about 11:11, the time. But, when he didn’t do it by the time we left the house I figured it wasn’t going to because we were going to pick up his cousin at the airport.

Were you still surprised or did you just act surprised?  

I was genuinely suprised, because it turned out we weren’t picking his cousin up, it was just a trick to get me to the restaurant where we first met without me suspecting anything fishy. He proposed on the spot we first met on the sidewalk outside the restaurant.

How did you keep yourself under control (and not smile like an idiot/giggle/have a heart attack everytime he bent over to tie his shoe- all day)? Well, all morning before we left the house my heart would skip whenever he would come into the room by me, or sit by me. Once he walked into the room, and put his hand in his pocket, and I just froze. LOL.

OR, Did you ever really believe it was going to happen….and it didn’t?

No. He never let me believe he was ready before he was. I did think he might do it, about a week before he actually did. We went away for a weekend with my family, and I thought he might then. When I told him that though, he said he didn’t think I would want it to happen in front of everyone.

 

Post # 24
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Did you know it was coming?  

Yep! We had already narrowed down a timeline but he was being super weird that day.

Were you kind of expecting it all day?  

Yes. He said something weird in the morning and then I knew it was coming. So when he randomly asked me to go hiking at our favorite spot, I knew his exact plan. I didn’t even want to go hiking, I just knew if I went I’d be getting engaged!

Were you still surprised or did you just act surprised?  

Um, well, a little. I still had that “OHMYGOD” feeling because it was a BIG MOMENT. But I told him right after that I knew it was coming.

How did you keep yourself under control (and not smile like an idiot/giggle/have a heart attack everytime he bent over to tie his shoe- all day)?

I very nearly ruined it by blurting out as we were hiking, “You aren’t going to propose, are you?” I have a weird sense of humor, so that struck me as funny – but thinking about how he planned it and took time/effort to get it right, I didn’t want to hurt his feelings, so I shut my mouth.

OR, Did you ever really believe it was going to happen….and it didn’t?

I actually thought he would propose the night we painted our first apartment together. Turns out, that was his initial plan but the ring arrived late. I know him so well.

How did you cope?

I bitched to my friends. A lot. They are the best. 🙂

Post # 25
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Did you know it was coming?  I knew it was coming. I knew everything about it. Poor Me. Hedgie talks in his sleep and when he gets really excited, there is no shutting him up.

Were you kind of expecting it all day?  I almost ran to the place where he was going to propose so… yeah!

Were you still surprised or did you just act surprised?  I acted surprised. I was surprised at the ring. I had never seen it before.

How did you keep yourself under control (and not smile like an idiot/giggle/have a heart attack everytime he bent over to tie his shoe- all day)? I kept reminding myself not to rush it and just enjoy everything he planned because he put a lot of work into it. It was hard. I apparently still tried to rush it. But, I just kep enjoying my time with him and the day as if I didn’t know.

OR, Did you ever really believe it was going to happen….and it didn’t? Well, again, poor guy talks in his sleep. I KNEW.

How did you cope? I still wish it had been more of a surprise but at the same time, it was perfect. He knows me so well and made sure it was very very special and memorable. It was simple and… perfect. Plus, knowing did make it slightly easier because it wasn’t a guessing game of if or when. It was a set thing I could look forward to. Which is perfect for such an impatient person like me.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Did you know it was coming?  Yes, but I didn’t know when he would do it.  I knew when he went ring shopping, and when he asked my dad.  I certainly never expected it on his birthday of all days!

Were you kind of expecting it all day?  Nope, and I totally missed all of the hints I should have seen – he was acting odd all day, but we were on vacation in NYC, and he is a country boy, so I just thought he was uncomfortable with the big crowds

Were you still surprised or did you just act surprised?  Totally surprised, which is what he wanted.  As I said, I was never expecting it to happen on his birthday. 

How did you keep yourself under control (and not smile like an idiot/giggle/have a heart attack everytime he bent over to tie his shoe- all day)?  He asked my dad the night before we left for our vacation, and I knew he was probably going to ask him then.  I made the excuse of “going to bed early” (my dad was spending the night at our place, since he was driving us to the train station) so they could talk.  When Fiance came to bed, I couldn’t help but act all giggly, even though I wasn’t supposed to know.

OR, Did you ever really believe it was going to happen….and it didn’t? I really expected a proposal on my birthday, two months before his, and I admit, I was wrecked that he didn’t ask.  Turns out, the thought hadn’t even entered his mind

How did you cope? Not well.  I kept it together for a week, until I found out that a friend of a friend, who is ten years younger than I am, just got engaged.  I lost it, and it all came tumbling out.  Luckily, this opened up a whole new line of communication, and Fiance discovered that I wasn’t looking for an extravagently expensive wedding – I just wanted to be married to him. 

 

Post # 27
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Sugar bee

Did you know it was coming? 
After I found the ring box, I knew it was coming.

Were you kind of expecting it all day? 
No- I didn’t expect it at all until I found the ring box. 

Were you still surprised or did you just act surprised? 
I was still in shock but I did have to act surprised since I wasn’t suppose to know he had the ring.

How did you keep yourself under control (and not smile like an idiot/giggle/have a heart attack everytime he bent over to tie his shoe- all day)?
I kept busy on the net and watching TV making lots of conversation with him. I almost gave it away though because I was smiling A LOT.

 

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Did you know it was coming?  

Yep. We had picked out a ring together before hand

Were you kind of expecting it all day?  

Well, we kind of looked at each other and said “I guess we should tell our parents sometime.” And then we realized that due to a series of unfortunate events, we would have to tell our parents that night. So he sort of had a three hour window.

Were you still surprised or did you just act surprised?  

I didn’t expect the manner that he proposed in, but I wasn’t surprised at the proposal itself. I still cried when he asked, though.

 

The best advice I’ve got for you is that it doesn’t always turn out like it does in the movies, but you obviously know that it’s coming, so sit back, relax and let it happen. And seriously – if you’re not surprised, it’s not the end of the world!

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It hasn’t happened yet…I do know it’s coming though and I truly believe that I will be surprised because as much as I have been dreaming about it I still can’t really fathom it ever happening – if you know what I mean 🙂

Post # 31
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Did you know it was coming?  I knew it was coming down to the day. We’d been talking a lot about marriage, and one night late last spring, after several glasses of wine, he said “I want to propose on the Fourth of July”, and then neither of us said anything about it again. I think he was hoping I’d forget about it (as if, lol). Then near the end of June I was emptying out his pants pockets to do laundry, and found a ring box. Managed to not succumb and open it, because I wanted something about it to be a surprise. 

Were you kind of expecting it all day? Yep. I was on pins and needles all day. I only knew the day, not the plan. So when we were out at breakfast I was thinking “Will it be here?” Then we went to Longwood Gardens, and I had a feeling it would be there, but everytime he paused I thought “Will it be now?”  

Were you still surprised or did you just act surprised?  Didn’t even try. I was on the biggest excited high. I didn’t even bother trying to suppress it. I was bouncing around and giggling like no one’s business. He thought it was adorable, and was on an excited high of his own. 

How did you keep yourself under control (and not smile like an idiot/giggle/have a heart attack everytime he bent over to tie his shoe- all day)? Lol, see above answer. Didn’t even try. Just relished the excitedment and anticipation. 

OR, Did you ever really believe it was going to happen….and it didn’t? On this particular day, no. I knew it would be that day. But we went through a couple of readjusted timelines for almost an entire year before it happened. 

How did you cope? I was disappointed everytime one would pass us by, but I knew that I wanted to spend my life with him, and him with me, so that made it easier to handle the delays. I knew it would happen eventually. I knew that was the path we were on, but sometimes, I got pissy about it (usually around my period). I vented to my close friends a lot. If I’d have known about the Waiting Board, I’d have probably been there, lol. 

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