(Closed) You knew it was coming…Did you act surprised?

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Post # 32
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Did you know it was coming?  Yes, I knew it would happen on vacation but I didn’t know which day. I kind of thought my birthday (which was day #5 of vacation)

Were you kind of expecting it all day?  Not really because I thought it would happen on my birthday. Also, we were up at 4am and traveling all day. I was too tired to be thinking about it all that much.

Were you still surprised or did you just act surprised?  I was a little surprised it happened the first day, but more than surprise I was just overwhelmed. Surprise is not the best emotion I don’t think… I was happy, incredulous… even if you think you know how you’ll feel when that moment actually comes its like “omgomg its really happening this is crazy”

How did you keep yourself under control (and not smile like an idiot/giggle/have a heart attack everytime he bent over to tie his shoe- all day)? tired. lol

OR, Did you ever really believe it was going to happen….and it didn’t?

How did you cope?

Post # 35
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I switched up the order a bit, because it makes more sense for my story.

OR, Did you ever really believe it was going to happen….and it didn’t?

I really, really believed it was going to happen at a gaming convention we go to. He had joked about it for a year, and I knew he had the ring (we picked it out together). Well…it didn’t happen.

How did you cope?

Poorly. I started crying in the car on the way home and he had no idea what was going on. I tried to not be emotionally manipulative (I was geniunely sad!), but he finally badgered me into telling him what was wrong. He promised to do it soon, and I felt better.

Did you know it was coming?

The next day, he called me to ask what kind of food I would want if I was getting proposed to on a picnic on the apartment balcony. He actually said that! 

Were you kind of expecting it all day?  

I was! I put on the dress I bought when I started waiting for the proposal, and luckily I had a massage scheduled. πŸ™‚

Were you still surprised or did you just act surprised?  

I wasn’t surprised at all, and I didn’t bother acting surprised. I did, however, act very, very, very happy! Surprise is just fake if you already know it’s coming, so don’t worry about it! Just be happy, and that will be more than enough of a reaction!

How did you keep yourself under control (and not smile like an idiot/giggle/have a heart attack everytime he bent over to tie his shoe- all day)?

I was so nervous/excited that I was kind of quiet until it happened. I didn’t want to interrupt him if he was going to do it!

Post # 37
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@MissIcecream: Thanks! :o) I’m really glad I could help!

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Similar to other pp’s, I’m rejigging the order on this one:

Did you ever really believe it was going to happen….and it didn’t?

After we had been together over 1 1/2 years, and living together for a few months, he told me that for my birthday he was surprising me with a vacation away and I’d need my passport – I was SO EXCITED!! Just to go away, nothing else. But then…. EVERYONE started saying, OMG, he’s gonna propose! he’s gonna propose!! How sweet, taking you on vacation and setting the perfect scene!!!’  So needless to say, I got totally caught up in it and yep, on my birthday, woke up so excited just knowing that would be the day.  I even made sure that I had all my makeup done perfectly so I’d be ready for some post-engagement photos as I’d want to show all my friends and family the hotel balcony where he did it (that overlooked the ocean – very nice!) etc.  So I took SO LONG getting ready that morning while he patiently sat on the balcony smiling. I had some other presents with me I’d brought in my suitcase from family so I opened them first, saving his until the last. obviously.  Then he passed over his gift and I thought, ‘oh that’s kind of a weird shape for a ring box’ but figured he did the whole ‘box within a box’ thing to throw me off. Clever guy. right? 

Ummm, no.  I opened the box and you know what it was?  A datebook.  I fuck you not.  That was his gift.  That was THE gift.  he was so pleased with himself because he knew I’d used up my one from 2009, so gave me one for 2010 that was in my favorite color.  And as he pointed out to me, it is refillable with new pages, so I can use it for the rest of my life.  Well, whoopie doo.

How did you cope?

I was in shock for a while, a little disappointed but ok, probably quieter than usual that day but kind of mad at myself for expecting it to happen.  but then coming home to so many people saying ‘did it happen!?’ was heartbreaking. And the thing was, he hadn’t a clue any of this was going on.  It hadn’t even crossed his mind to propose to me and he was genuinely amazed that other people thought it would happen! I ended up bursting into tears about 1 month later and that finally got us talking about the future. Several months and long discussions later we had to agree on a date together because when HE actually did want to ask me to marry him, I ended up in hospital a few days before!  So it didn’t happen when he wanted it to either!! (Now I’m thinking about it, it’s like God is trying to tell us something…)

Not really the way I envisaged getting engaged, as I’d always wanted it to be a surprise but there you go!

Did you know it was coming?  

eventually because things kept going wrong we had to choose a date to make it ‘official’ as he still wanted to do things traditionally.

Were you kind of expecting it all day?  

even the day that we had agreed on, so i was expecting it that day, at the end of the day we literally didn’t have any time alone together (long story!) – so it ended up having to be the next day!  So even if you think you ‘know’ when it’s going to happen – don’t count on it!

Were you still surprised or did you just act surprised?  

not surprised, just worried that something else would go wrong and when it didn’t and we were FINALLY officially engaged I was so damn happy and excited and relieved that i just burst into tears and giggled

How did you keep yourself under control (and not smile like an idiot/giggle/have a heart attack everytime he bent over to tie his shoe- all day)?

we never had any time alone together! we finally got eat dinner by ourselves and i was so nervous i could hardly eat anything at all!!  I just sat there really quietly, which is very unlike me!!



Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

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@MissIcecream: YES girl! If he’s asking you to save a special outfit I’d say that’s a big fat sign! Eeek! Laughing

Post # 40
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3306 posts
Sugar bee

@MissIcecream- if we have bumped heads, trust me, nothing personal. I just really care about those of us that wait and I try to bring another perspective into it which sometimes may not jive. I try my best to keep it respectful (as well as have an open mind) so I hope I have done that with you.

Luckily for me, I found the waiting board right before he proposed, so I have my last few months waiting documented.

Here was the day before he proposed-

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/v-day-weekend

The day of (when I found the box)-

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/omg-girlsssssss

And the day after-

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/he-went-out-to-get-donuts-very-long-for-more-information

A true surprise indeed!

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I knew it was coming.

In the moment, you don’t have to act suprised. There is a flood of emotions going on already. Mine was sincere and perfect even though I wasn’t suprised. It still takes your breath away!

Post # 43
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972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Did you know it was coming?  

yes we talked about it, and he had the ring. I sort of knew what day it would be. He gave me timeline

Were you kind of expecting it all day?  

yes and no. I sort of thought he would propose on my birthday, but it just didn’t seem like everything would work out. I wanted him to ask my parents first, and I had a gyno appt that day (HA!) and he’d worked all week. I didn’t think we’d have enough time. but it only takes a few seconds to say “will you marry me?” πŸ˜€ 

I would get SOOO nervous though (good nervous) I’m not one who likes to be the center of attention, so I had anxiety about that. My intuition sort of let me know when it was about to happen

Were you still surprised or did you just act surprised?  

I wasn’t SURPISED surprised. I mean was but it wasn’t as if I didn’t know it was coming. but I was mainly just insanely happy. no need for theatrics πŸ™‚

How did you keep yourself under control (and not smile like an idiot/giggle/have a heart attack everytime he bent over to tie his shoe- all day)?

you’re SUPPOSED to smile like an idiot! it’s the best day of your life! πŸ™‚

Post # 44
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2017 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Did you know it was coming?  Yep-had the wedding date set

Were you kind of expecting it all day?  Yes and knew the ring was in the house

Were you still surprised or did you just act surprised?  He managed to completely catch me off guard and I was definitely still surprised

How did you keep yourself under control (and not smile like an idiot/giggle/have a heart attack everytime he bent over to tie his shoe- all day)?  I didn’t completely lose it but it was somewhere along the lines of “OMG! OMG! OMG! and I had to grab the kitchen counter because I swooned a little and my knees sort of gave way:)  It was fantastic, romantic and everything I ever wanted.



Post # 46
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

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@MissIcecream:  

this thread was awesome to read to calm my thoughts!! 33 days and counting until Hawaii… and the proposal is definitely happening sometime then… Now to just relax and enjoy the moment πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ 

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