Similar to other pp’s, I’m rejigging the order on this one:
Did you ever really believe it was going to happen….and it didn’t?
After we had been together over 1 1/2 years, and living together for a few months, he told me that for my birthday he was surprising me with a vacation away and I’d need my passport – I was SO EXCITED!! Just to go away, nothing else. But then…. EVERYONE started saying, OMG, he’s gonna propose! he’s gonna propose!! How sweet, taking you on vacation and setting the perfect scene!!!’ So needless to say, I got totally caught up in it and yep, on my birthday, woke up so excited just knowing that would be the day. I even made sure that I had all my makeup done perfectly so I’d be ready for some post-engagement photos as I’d want to show all my friends and family the hotel balcony where he did it (that overlooked the ocean – very nice!) etc. So I took SO LONG getting ready that morning while he patiently sat on the balcony smiling. I had some other presents with me I’d brought in my suitcase from family so I opened them first, saving his until the last. obviously. Then he passed over his gift and I thought, ‘oh that’s kind of a weird shape for a ring box’ but figured he did the whole ‘box within a box’ thing to throw me off. Clever guy. right?
Ummm, no. I opened the box and you know what it was? A datebook. I fuck you not. That was his gift. That was THE gift. he was so pleased with himself because he knew I’d used up my one from 2009, so gave me one for 2010 that was in my favorite color. And as he pointed out to me, it is refillable with new pages, so I can use it for the rest of my life. Well, whoopie doo.
How did you cope?
I was in shock for a while, a little disappointed but ok, probably quieter than usual that day but kind of mad at myself for expecting it to happen. but then coming home to so many people saying ‘did it happen!?’ was heartbreaking. And the thing was, he hadn’t a clue any of this was going on. It hadn’t even crossed his mind to propose to me and he was genuinely amazed that other people thought it would happen! I ended up bursting into tears about 1 month later and that finally got us talking about the future. Several months and long discussions later we had to agree on a date together because when HE actually did want to ask me to marry him, I ended up in hospital a few days before! So it didn’t happen when he wanted it to either!! (Now I’m thinking about it, it’s like God is trying to tell us something…)
Not really the way I envisaged getting engaged, as I’d always wanted it to be a surprise but there you go!
Did you know it was coming?
eventually because things kept going wrong we had to choose a date to make it ‘official’ as he still wanted to do things traditionally.
Were you kind of expecting it all day?
even the day that we had agreed on, so i was expecting it that day, at the end of the day we literally didn’t have any time alone together (long story!) – so it ended up having to be the next day! So even if you think you ‘know’ when it’s going to happen – don’t count on it!
Were you still surprised or did you just act surprised?
not surprised, just worried that something else would go wrong and when it didn’t and we were FINALLY officially engaged I was so damn happy and excited and relieved that i just burst into tears and giggled
How did you keep yourself under control (and not smile like an idiot/giggle/have a heart attack everytime he bent over to tie his shoe- all day)?
we never had any time alone together! we finally got eat dinner by ourselves and i was so nervous i could hardly eat anything at all!! I just sat there really quietly, which is very unlike me!!