Post # 1
After a girls lunch with my mother about a month ago I related to SO that my mother said she’d be happy to have him as a son in law. SO responds, “You know the only problem I have with marrying you?” Pause.
So I thought that it might be fun to create a sort of spin off of the Dear Boyfriend thread. Share your SO’s “only problem with marrying you”, why it irritates you, and why your actually ok with it. Here’s mine:
You can’t afford the ring yet? That is rubbish and we both know it. I’ve seen your bank account and investment portfolio remember? I mean you could almost buy a house outright. Now I appreciate that you are frugal and want to have a million dollars saved per child before having kids. In fact I love that plan since I’m not ready for kids and it ought to take you another decade give or take a few years to get there.
But I’m going to let that slide for two reasons. 1) Your mother made sure the boys knew about jewelry and I’ll eventually get a spectacular shiny. 2) Out of the blue you told me “You really need to figure out how to spell my last name right. (What can I say I’m a horrible speller. His last name isn’t even that strange.)I mean you’ll be signing it at some point.” Which makes me think that you’ve been pondering marriage even though I have been very good about not bringing it up.
I love you,
Post # 3
Fun game! I’ll bite.
I call bullsh*t on you claim that we need to be more “financially secure” before marriage can be an option. We both have careers that are growing steadily. We pay a mortgage together and run a household. We keep our heads above water, and sure it could be better, but how many twenty somethings in this economy are feeling 100 percent financially secure? If we were failing to cover our bills, I could see the problem, but saying we aren’t “financially secure ” enough for a marriage because a month pops up here or there where we had home related expenses and couldn’t put as much money as you’d like into our savings hardly makes us a pair struggling to get by. Money is a variable. For all we know this could be the most financially secure we’ll ever be. What is important is not the money, but that we’re strongly bonded enough to deal with the trials that financial situations can present, and that we’re both trying and encouraging one another. We’ve been together for 5 years, and playing house for two. WE’re practically married already, I think we’ve got a handle on things. I know you have a “secret” (maybe stop leaving your statements on the dining room table if you expected it to stay secret) account that contains nearly the exact amount of money to purchase the ring I’ve been eyeing up. I’m not stupid, I know what it’s for. I love you the mostest, but cut the crap and pull the trigger already. <3
Post # 4
Dear bum bum,
I love you squishy. I have a feeling you are holding out for May 7th, our 4 year anniversary. I know I’m a bit funny with numbers, so I appreciate that, but you also know how impatient I am. Although you should maybe give me it after exams so I don’t get distracted by the shiny….
P.S. If it doesn’t happen on our anniversary you’ll need to give me a couple of bitch days. 🙂
Post # 5
I love you unconditionally but…I kinda hate that I’m sure 80% of your family will show up in jeans and no sleeves on their shirts for the wedding. REGARDLESS of whether we list Sunday best on the invites. But because I get to marry you, I’m willing to look past it, because after all it’s our day not theirs. 😉
Post # 6
I’d be interested to know what exactly his “problem with marrying you” was. Who the heck says something like that?
Post # 7
@ViaMinorViator: this! like seriously?
Post # 8
I don’t get the question? What was the problem he said he had about marrying you?
Post # 10
Ahaha, I love this, I’m soo sorry other ladies are in this situation, it sucks to have that ONE THING that throws them off.
I love that you want to be able to wait till you have enough $$$ saved up so you have the option of paying off my student loans if you wanted to but seriously, that’s going to take a few YEARS, so lets at least get engaged so I can stop stressing about your level of commitment and actually feel okay with accepting your $$$. Life isn’t about planning its about enjoying things, so suck it up and ask me so we can move in together and get to enjoy each other everyday!
p.s. If you explain this one more time to me with the same “logic” and don’t take into consideration my logic I will smack you, cripple foot and all.
Post # 11
You have bought and paid for the ring. It is theoretically somewhere in our house. please, give it to me now and put me out of my misery!!
Your long suffering girlfriend 🙂