(Closed) You know what I hate?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

That is a huge pet peeve of mine too! If it’s a business I keep calling back, especially if they don’t have a machine.

Can you go to the church early on Sunday before services to possibly speak with someone? That would be my next option since emailing and calling isn’t working!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Go there in person

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

It’s annoying for sure, and I been shocked at the number of businesses who don’t care to respond to customers. I say find another church because if you can’t trust them to be prompt and on time now in the early stages, how can you trust them wih your wedding?

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Young.love:  Go there in person or take this as a sign that they’ll be difficult to deal with through the entire planning process and possibly the wedding. I would go somewhere where I feel welcome.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Unfortunately this experience is not limited to wedding vendors.

I am paying off my mortgage this week (yeah me) and I had to resort to asking to speak with the branch manager as 3 different staff members ignored my emails, delayed in responding or didn’t respond at all.

I am meeting with the branch manager tomorrow.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I would go there after work or find out the office hours.  My guess is that the priest that runs the show on Sundays isn’t the one scheduling weddings.   Maybe take a long lunch and swing thru?  What about having your mom or someone drop in?

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@GroovyHippieChick:  Agreed.  It could be that the person responsible for checking the email is out on vacation or at home with a sick fmaily member and nobody knows to check the email.  Call the front desk and set up an appointment to go in person.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Young.love:  You’re going to have to learn to be pushy, otherwise people will push you around!  Go to the church… bring a pushy Fiance or a pushy friend to help if need be.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Young.love:  I completely understand.  Working in the service industry, though – our motto is “If they can’t be bothered to get back to us in a respectable amount of time, they obviously don’t want our business”.  Some vendors will just about bend over backwards to make you feel warm, welcome and wanted!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@RagDoll:  Totally agree!  And its such a relief finding them esp if you’ve been working with flaky or non responsive vendors! 

Post # 14
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Busy bee

First and foremost, a church is not a wedding vendor.  It is a place for like-minded people to gather to worship their god. One of the functions they perform is to marry members of their congregation as they support them spiritually throughout their complete life cycle.  It is not like a hotel where you can make an online reservation, and then complain about the customer service.

Many churches have only volunteer staff and often the ‘office’ part of the building is empty.  There is no 1-800 operator waiting to take your call.  The priest/pastor/minister is too busy visiting the sick, performing funerals, and writing sermons to be at the end of a phone 24/7.  The only person he has that kind of connection to is his god.

Yes, churches charge nominal fees to perform weddings but they’re not in the wedding business.  If you need to confirm a date, the best thing you can do is drop by in person, and preferably not on Sunday because, not surprisingly, it’s their busiest day of the week.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Anothersmith _  Agree with  “First and foremost, a church is not a wedding vendor.”  What you said is what I was thinking as i read thru the responses. 

To the OP, as others have said, some churches are manned only with volunteers who in many cases are older folks (that don’t do email) and they are only there a few hours a week.  If they are sick or away for that week probably no one covers for them  Go to the church or rectory to see if you can speak to someone directly.  Can you get ahold of a bulletin? There might be some info there that can help you.   Keep trying.  You really will need to be a little more pushy to get what you want in life.  I am not terribly forceful person either but have had to make myself so to get things done.  

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