Post # 1
I am positive that my wedding planner gets kickbacks. Like she discusses the price with vendors and will add to it based on getting a kickback for herself.
I know that she did this with the first florist she introduced me to, whom I did not hire, and is still in limbo. She like is trying to force me to accept his outrageous demands and prices, I know it’s b/c they probably have a relationship and he gives her a kickback – money, when I hire him.
It really bothers me. I feel like I cannot trust her now. What do you think? It’s so weird that she would do this to me and allow me to be overcharged or something. Like this guy required me to rent our venue the night before, it’s $$$ so I’m not doing that, and when I spoke to another woman at the venue who I trust, she said she’s never heard of that. When I emailed the planner and said that I’m not renting the venue for the vendor to set up the night before, she said ok, lets just dismiss all of that … instead of finding someone who is better priced and can set up the morning of … hello my receptions not until 7pm …
I’m so annoyed with this situation. I have yet to tell her how I feel. OH and I met another vendor, who is a fraction of the price of what the other vendor (from the planner), and the team can have it done in the morning of my wedding.
What would you do?
I feel like if I tell her, she will tell the vendor she likes, and he will call around to find out who I am interviewing and will sabotage me. Lol. I know, this sounds insane!
Post # 3
I’m so sorry you’re running into this. My future sister in law had this issue and ended up firing the wedding planner and hiring someone new. You should be able to meet with multiple vendors even if she provides them to decide on who you want and you should not feel compelled to use any one she ponies up. We had a provision added to our contract that expressly prohibits our wedding planner from taking kickbacks, but it’s too late for this. I think you should talk to your wedding planner and figure out a way to try to work things out with her. There’s no point in having her if you can’t trust her to do what’s best for you and if you’re constantly doublechecking everything she recommends.
Post # 4
Ugh. This is one reason why I’m not hiring a wedding planner. On the one hand, I understand why some people hire them — everything seems so overwhelming! — but on the other, you basically have to be prepared to shell out $$$ because frankly, they’re going to try to get as much money as possible. Of course, it’s not true for ALL wedding planners, but it definitely sounds like it’s the case with yours.
Do you really need to keep her on? Or do you feel comfortable letting her go? As I recall from your previous post, you’ve got most of your big ticket items picked already, and my impression from this one is that you’re doing most of the planning anyways! Consider hiring a DOC instead, if you want some reassurance that the wedding day will go fluidly, but definitely consider firing this planner!
Post # 5
wow that is so horrible! i’m just starting an internship to be a wedding planner, and I think that’s so wrong of that person! i personally wouldn’t hire a wedding planner, as i have no money for it!, but for everyone else that needs to/can afford it, that would piss me off!
Post # 6
SWITCH. She’s taking advantage of you. It all sounds so shady.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Find a new planner. This one is trying to pull one over on you.
Post # 8
I’m in the professional services industry (not wedding). It is often common for consultants to mark-up services of other consultants. For example, if an architect is leading a team of consultants and subcontracts an engineer, the architect will charge the client the engineer’s price plus 10%. The architect also has a fee. The mark-up is typically to cover project management costs.
I’ve heard many brides get upset by this practice, but know that it is not limited to the WIC and is a standard professional practice. The wedding coordinator does not just meet with you but they also meet with you and all the vendors (project management so to speak).
Just my two cents. Ask your planner to be upfront about this and look for language in the contract that spells it out. If it’s not in the contract, you could ask her not to mark-up.
Post # 9
House of J-
off topic but where are you interning? I am currently a student interested in event planning and am trying to research possible internship gigs! A wedding planner would be amazing! thanks =]