(Closed) You know what is getting to me … kick backs!!!!!!!!!!!! …

posted 9 years ago in Money
Post # 3
88 posts
Worker bee

I’m so sorry you’re running into this.  My future sister in law had this issue and ended up firing the wedding planner and hiring someone new.  You should be able to meet with multiple vendors even if she provides them to decide on who you want and you should not feel compelled to use any one she ponies up.  We had a provision added to our contract that expressly prohibits our wedding planner from taking kickbacks, but it’s too late for this.  I think you should talk to your wedding planner and figure out a way to try to work things out with her.  There’s no point in having her if you can’t trust her to do what’s best for you and if you’re constantly doublechecking everything she recommends. 

Post # 4
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Ugh. This is one reason why I’m not hiring a wedding planner. On the one hand, I understand why some people hire them — everything seems so overwhelming! — but on the other, you basically have to be prepared to shell out $$$ because frankly, they’re going to try to get as much money as possible. Of course, it’s not true for ALL wedding planners, but it definitely sounds like it’s the case with yours.

Do you really need to keep her on? Or do you feel comfortable letting her go? As I recall from your previous post, you’ve got most of your big ticket items picked already, and my impression from this one is that you’re doing most of the planning anyways! Consider hiring a DOC instead, if you want some reassurance that the wedding day will go fluidly, but definitely consider firing this planner!

Post # 5
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

wow that is so horrible! i’m just starting an internship to be a wedding planner, and I think that’s so wrong of that person! i personally wouldn’t hire a wedding planner, as i have no money for it!, but for everyone else that needs to/can afford it, that would piss me off!

Post # 6
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

SWITCH. She’s taking advantage of you. It all sounds so shady.

Post # 7
4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Find a new planner. This one is trying to pull one over on you.

Post # 8
174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I’m in the professional services industry (not wedding). It is often common for consultants to mark-up services of other consultants. For example, if an architect is leading a team of consultants and subcontracts an engineer, the architect will charge the client the engineer’s price plus 10%. The architect also has a fee. The mark-up is typically to cover project management costs.

I’ve heard many brides get upset by this practice, but know that it is not limited to the WIC and is a standard professional practice. The wedding coordinator does not just meet with you but they also meet with you and all the vendors (project management so to speak). 

Just my two cents. Ask your planner to be upfront about this and look for language in the contract that spells it out. If it’s not in the contract, you could ask her not to mark-up. 

Post # 9
5 posts

House of J-


off topic but where are you interning? I am currently a student interested in event planning and am trying to research possible internship gigs! A wedding planner would be amazing! thanks =]

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