(Closed) You know when you find out a couple has been together less than you…

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Ha, you’re a better woman than me. A least you don’t get all ragey like I do(note, it is a quiet, contained-in-myself rage, but a rage nonetheless.)

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I totally used to get mopey. Actually I would sink into a little ball of self-pity. It was bad. Your time will come and when it does it’ll be totally worth it.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

I don’t know, this never bothered me. The boy and I were together for almost six years before getting engaged, and in that time was saw a lot of our friends meet people, fall in love, get engaged and get married.

It might make you feel better to just realize that every couple is different and there is no specific timeline that everyone has to stick to. If it’s meant to happen, it’ll happen. πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Hey Accorn, hang in there! Getting married is a big step and it’s better for you both to be 100% ready first. It will happen, don’t worry!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I used to get mopey, too. I’d try not to, but it would still happen from time to time, especially right before he proposed (around the 7-year mark).

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

i used to cry… serious crying… now Fiance proposed after 5 years. i know plenty of people who got engaged after 2-3 years.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Here was my solution – buy a house before any of my friends! Haha. When I start to feel sad that we’re not married, I just remind myself that we beat everyone to the punch with a house. πŸ˜›

Of course buying a house before marriage is a huge no-no for many people, and houses are pretty freaking expensive, so it’s probably not a practical solution for everyone. πŸ˜‰

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I feel your pain. We have been engaged for 2 years now, and everyone else has gotten married in the meantime. I swear it makes my eye twitch!!!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

It gets to me, and when I mention it I get this sarcastic tone to my voice. But then I just think back to what one of my friends told me: My engagement is the one everyone is waiting for..it will be EPIC and no one elses will matter! πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Gah, this couple I know met in April of last year and were married by October. I have been with my boyfriend for 4.5 years so I was feeling pretty bitter and b*tchy. It didn’t help that I am not fond of the women either lol. Bf got the stink eye for like a month.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I get sad. I’m happy for the couple but I want to ask the guy who proposed what makes you do it and what makes him not do it? Have a word lol!

My now married friends got engaged after 2 years and married after 5 (both students saving hard), my cousin met his gf after I met G, is now married with a baby, his cousin has been with her bf for 6 months and they are getting married in may (after about a year of being together), my ex has since been engaged TWICE to two different girls – the current one he proposed to after 5 months and they are getting married next year.

I’m not bitter…..much.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I totally feel your pain!  This was the story of my life.  We were together 5.5 years before Darling Husband proposed. In that time we introduced couples who met, got engaged and married before we were ever even engaged ! Talk about traumatic.

I too cried, had moments of rage and then finally – a sense of peace came over me (that I desperately needed).  It was like I envoked MrBee’s plan without even knowing it…

Hang in there. I know it’s hard but when it happens, it will all seem so right.  I promise.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@fuschiasparkles: That’s EXACTLY what I was going to suggest!

@accorn: Seriously! Of my college friends, of his childhood friends (some of the wives of these guys call me “the matriarch”!), of our local friends, we were the first to get together.  And, after 11 years, of nearly ALL of these (save three guys), we’re the LAST to get engaged & be married.  BUT, on the bright side…ALL of my college friends are coming to the wedding, ALL of his childhood friends are coming, ALL of our local friends are coming to OUR wedding.  No prior events, no “oh, but we’re saving for our wedding”, no “we’re still in school, so we don’t have the money right now” excuses! So, it’s TRUE, your engagement & subsequent wedding (to take @fuschiasparkles’ words) WILL be epic & all the people who were engaged & married first will be SO excited to finally celebrate with you!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Hrmm… I am one of those girls who got engaged after being with her boyfriend for a year.  My ex “friend” who had been dating her Boyfriend or Best Friend for 2.5 years at the time promptly stopped being my friend because she was so upset that I got engaged before her.  I’m not kidding.  I wish I could say there were other contributing factors but she literally told people that she was so upset about my engagement that she couldn’t stand being in a room with me anymore.  What a big selfish baby huh? (Not saying any of you did that or would do that)

For the record, I think it’s absolutely fine to pout like a five year old about the whole thing.  πŸ™‚

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