- 4 years ago
So I just thought this was really interesting… I have a bunch of successful guy friends, none that I talk to anymore out of respect for my fiance ( I had a crush on one of them a while ago)
Anyways to the point these men that told me this are very rich, successful, beautiful, high profile men…they work in DC & NYC, one has worked for the President, one is the son of a senator and one is the director of marketing the #1 company in the world and all are in their mid 30’s. ( I just gave a background, so you could see these men could have any girl they wanted and probably have had a sexual past with a lot of women(tons))
They don’t know each other and have each told me on seperate occasions, that “They don’t like for their girlfriend, fiance, wife to give them head because they love them too much and they feel bad”
I was like whaaaat? that’s weird…So then we dove deeper into it.
They each said the same thing in their own words, “Well in the past I would get head from hookups or girls I dated that I didn’t respect as much as my wife or fiance, and I love my wife too much to make her do that to me”
“If she really wanted to, I would let her, but only if I did it to her too and then we made love, I would never let her just do it to me and not give back, because I LOVE HER TOO MUCH”
Hmm…I thought it was so weird and rare for a guy to think like this, but the MORE guys that I talked to that I knew were Smitten, over the moon in love with their wives, fiance’s the more common it came for them to say this. It’s like because they got it from girls they had NO respect for…they don’t want to get it from their wife unless its a mutual exchange?
I realize not every guy thinks like this, but I have meet enough that said this to make me think this could be a common thought for men?
Like it’s a certain stage in a relationship that a guy loves you so much and respects you so much and honors you so much that they won’t even let you go down on them and if you are not getting anything in return or they don’t even want to see your beautiful face do such a thing…
Note: I DO Not think giving head is degrading at all! I enjoy giving it to my fiance and think it is a healthy part of every couple’s sex life
So I have to admit, when these guys told me this…I was like man, I wish one day my man would love me so much that I would offer it and he would be like…No…I love you too much for you to go down on me and me not to be able to return the favor (bc its your time of the month) and you don’t have to do that hunny.
Well, It happened last night…I offered it to my fiance and he told me he loved me too much for me to do that to him and him not be able to return the favor. ( and know these men do not say it because you are terrible at it, because my fiance has loved it every time)…
Have you had an experience like this? Or seen this before?
Some of these men don’t let their wives or fiance’s do it to them AT ALL, because they think it is degrading…another interesting comment they all made… Hmmm what do you thinK?
NOTE: I am not trying to correlate oral sex with how much your man loves you…I am just wondering if other bee’s men have said something like this to them? Is the sexuality of our culture and the fact that we see men getting blow jobs everywhere, in movies, tv shows (or atleast implying blow jobs) desensitizing men to the meaning of it?