Post # 1
So I have had a pretty long engagement (about 5 years) and we recently have set an official wedding date and are in the process of telling our loved ones the good news that we’re finally officially getting married next May (now that we’ve already told our immediate families). Well what is starting to annoy me a little bit is that everytime I say to someone, “Hey I’ve got good news” they automatically say “Oh you’re pregnant?!”. And I’m like, “No we’ve set the date and we’re getting married next May” And the’re just like “Oh, ok” almost disappointed (its so very anti-climatic). It’s like people just forgot I was engaged. So it annoys me that people assume I’m telling them I”m pregnant (not that I don’t want children after I get married)… it’s just kinda stealing my whole wedding excitement. I”m now trying to rephrase how I tell people about the wedding so that I don’t get those pregnancy remarks. Am I being too senstive about it?
Post # 3
Maybe. I think lots of brides get that. My Fiance and I got engaged after 8 months of dating, but set the date out two years. Most my family asked if it was because I wanted to lose the pregnancy weight after the baby was born. I was like, “What baby?”
I wouldn’t let it steal your excitement though! People make thoughtless comments ALL the time during the whole planning phase. I have gotten comments from my dress looks cheap to things are too extravagant and I’m just showing off. I’m not sure how you show off on a budget of $10k, but whatever. 🙂
Post # 4
i get that sometimes, and i haven’t even had a super long engagement(10 months), or if i have some good news about the wedding and i say, i’ve got great news!!! eveyone says, ‘You’re Pregnant?!?!’, um no, i’m getting married in 1 week and going on a honeymoon and wanna drink, right now that doesn’t quite qualify as GREAT news.. lol
Post # 5
I think you might be a little too sensitive about it. Though I think it’s great that you both were very comfortable with each other that you can have that long of an engagement, it’s understandable that people are reacting that way. When you tell someone that you have news, and you’re already engaged, the first thing I would think of would be that you’re pregnant. Unfortunately, it does put a damper on the excitement of you planning your wedding!
I think approaching it a different way will help people stop asking if you’re pregnant. Maybe just coming out and saying, “So, we set a date! We’re really excited!” People will react a little better when you rephrase.
Post # 6
Thanks guys! I tried that recently with someone I ran into and simply said “Oh by the way I wanted to let you know that we’ve set an official wedding date!! We are so excited!!”. That seemed to elicit a better response… its hard when you’re so excited and put on the spot to think of the right thing to say
@brittanymichelle congratulations on your wedding!! I definitely feel the same way LOL
Post # 7
Try not to take it personal I am sure they are just as happy about your wedding as they would have been after a 2 year engagement. Have fun and don’t let anyone bring you down!
Post # 8
I think it’s just people don’t know what to say. Even though to the all of us, our worlds kinda-sorta-most definately revolve around weddings…apparently life is going on as normal for the rest of the world 🙂