(Closed) You Know You've Been *Just* Dating For Too Long When…

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
3221 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@FutureMrsAJG:  Your cousin posted e-ring contenders on FB? I find that bizarre.

For me, I knew we were dating too long when one of our friends met his gf, proposed, married her, had a kid together, separated, got back together, separated, and finally got divorced. At some point I mentioned that it was so sudden, and he mentioned that they were together for seven years! Oops.

Post # 4
1145 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

when your family and his refer to you as his wife

when the title “boyfriend/ girlfriend” just doesn’t suit your relationship anymore. 

Post # 6
609 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

Your SO’s older brother got engaged, broke it off a few months later, started dating another girl right after, dated her for a few months, and now currently with his 3rd chick. Yuppp.

Oh and calling your SO “boyfriend” sounds really weird and outdated.

Post # 7
12259 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@FutureMrsAJG:  My Dad’s from Brooklyn, Italian family.

He offered DH (when he was still BF) “A ring dat fell offa da’ back of a truck.”

And he was SERIOUS.

Post # 8
2125 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@tiff-tiff-tiff:  exactly! I’ve been with my guy for 6 years, Boyfriend hardly describes what my guy is to me. We need some intermediate titles. 


Post # 9
2037 posts
Buzzing bee

When you get wedding invites from his brother’s wedding and the invites are sent to “Mr and Mrs Veryberry” because they already consider you married lol.  

Then you start looking into EVERYTHING like a ring that went missing from a jewelry box (did I MISPLACE THAT or DID HE TAKE IT?!?), to him texting your Dad and wondering what the heck they are talking about (IT HAS TO BE ME!  AND OUR FUTURE!)

And I agree with PPs….BOYFRIEND sounds silly, so I refer to him as SO and FH because he’s not quite DH yet lol Tongue Out

Post # 10
421 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Rebar

Lol this is a funny post! For me i knew wet were dating for too long when I saw my SO graduate from high school, college and law school and now he is buying a home! Lol also the fact that people no longer ask when we are getting married lol bc it’s been 10 years since we have been together. Sad to say I am tired of Just been called his GF…I think after 10 years…witnessing many big events in SO life’s….I think in ready!!

Post # 11
1364 posts
Bumble bee

@BrandNewBride:  Hahahahaha!

@letigre:  Err, WOW.

When telling people how long you’ve been together is always followed by “that’s so long! What’s up, are you guys against marriage or something?”

When we’re not allowed to share a bed when we stay with our grandparents, even though we’ve been together longer than some of the married couples in our families.

When people who don’t know me well ask me if my relationship is serious, even though we’ve been together for 7 years.

I could go on…. 😉

Post # 12
678 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I was with my SO for 7 years before we *finally* had our official engagement.

The years do seem to fly by but the reality of just how long it was really hit home when several friends of ours broke up with their original SOs, started dating other people, married those people, and had children with those people all while we were still “dating.” 

One couple we knew met, dated, married, divorced, and found new relationships during this time as well.

While we were dating, people referred to him all the time as my “husband” and over time I just stopped correcting them or even feeling weird about it. Although he wasn’t technically my husband it sounded more fitting that “boyfriend” so I learned to let it go!


Post # 13
4529 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@arathella:  “oh my lord” to the not being allowed to share beds. Been there, laughing my ass off.

We really weren’t even together *that* long when he proposed, but other people were making me feel like we’d been together 10 years or something. We’d get mail addressed to “Mr. & Mrs._____”, friends would introduce us as married, etc. I think him being 40 and never married also made some well-intentioned friends and family feel like they could jokingly rush him.

I think a lot of it in our situation had to do with the fact that we had done two cross-country moves together, had cars together, etc. Pretty much things ‘married people do’ in some folks minds.

Post # 14
37 posts

Haha yeah, when your fiercely independent, loves to be single friend meets a guy, moves in, gets married, and pops out a kid and you’re still with the same guy….

Post # 15
1145 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

when you believe that some married couples need to get some more years under their belts before they can give you relationship advise. (8 yr old relationship here)

when you’ve become a ninja when it comes to answering the question “So when are you two getting married?’

Post # 16
3221 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@tiff-tiff-tiff:  omg +10000 to married couples who have been together for less time giving “advice!”

My FH and I have been living together far longer than some married friends have even known each other. Advice on planning a wedding? I’ll take it. Marriage and relationship advice? Step off please!

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