(Closed) You let your teenage daughter carry what?!

posted 8 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Unless my daughter is a crazy violent teenager I think it’s great. I would hope I could trust my children enough to know that mace isn’t something to play around with.

Post # 4
108 posts
Blushing bee

It’s an ever changing world and unfortunately, this is the reality.


However, I agree that the mace should be ditched. Stick with the personal alarm though. No harm in that. In fact, it’s smart.

Post # 5
898 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@TopazTurtle:  mace is totally illegal in most schools.  Maybe it’s only the states where I’ve been a teacher, but they can get a student expelled.

Even if someone else took the mace from her purse and sprayed it at a crowd, the girl who had it in the first place would also get in trouble.  It’s a hazard where students are concerned.

Post # 6
6014 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

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@Birdee106:  +1

So the alternative is to give her no way to defend herself?   It’s good she learns these things now, she’ll need these things lessons for the rest of her life.  My niece carries mace and an alarm on her at college.  She’s had them since she started working and bought her own car. 

Post # 7
1074 posts
Bumble bee

That sounds like a good way to give a kid a complex. I’m all for safety, but to say “you won’t be safe unless you carry these things around 24/7” (which is the implication) seems pretty fear-mongering to me. 

Post # 8
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Hell yes I’d let her carry mace! I’d encourage it! We are lucky to come from a generation that didn’t really need it when we were teenagers, but times have changed. I am sure most schools have policies against it though, so she probably wouldn’t be able to take it to school (I’m talking about high school, not college. I think EVERY girl in college who walks around campus should carry mace).

ETA: Obviously it would depend on what my teenage daughter is like. If she can be trusted and she is a good kid, then yes, I would let her. If she is a problem child, then no, I wouldn’t want to risk her using it inappropriately

Post # 9
1459 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

I had a friend who had a personal alarm in her bag. It would go off all the time, like randomly in the middle of class and stuff, then she’d have to fiddle about for a fair while to shut it up.


Perhaps they’re more secure these days and less annoying XD

Post # 10
4272 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Dunno about mace but my daughter will be taking self-defense classes.

Post # 11
3367 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

As a teenager, I got grabbed on the way to school one day when I was riding my bike. I fought free and darted across one of the busiest roads in town, and went straight tot he cops. The officer told me that it may be a good idea to carry SOMETHING, if not take self defense classes., 

I started taking Muay Thai kickboxing and also Haganah (which is the form of defense that the Israeli army uses), and haven’t looked back. I think that’s a better idea than carrying mace or something else that can be turned on you. It gives you lots of self confidence and also keeps you in shape. 

I also have a concealed carry permit, and I have a gun that I carry with me, but we also live in the country.  

Post # 12
977 posts
Busy bee

I don’t see the problem with it. As long as the parent educated the child about it, using  it, when to use it, how to use it…etc.  I read a lot of crime news…it’s amazing how many people, especially children, go missing each day.


Post # 13
6262 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

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@BookGirrl:  +1 the legality of that concerns me

Post # 14
5422 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

I carried a knife as protection when I was a teen.  So I dont see the issue.  I dont quite see the advantages of the personal alarm thing.  I get it, I just dont see it being effective.

Post # 15
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@batwoman:  I agree!

Has there been a rise in violence in schools?  Yes.  Is carrying around things like that going to make someone feel more safe?  No.  I believe it will make the child more paranoid and leary of anyone acting foolish.  I have a teenage daughter and after the shootings I talk to her that her teachers are there to keep her safe and that what’s happening is isolated and that she is safe in her school.  She says, in true teenage fashion, “I knowwwwwwwwww.” 

Here’s another thing to consider.  Is this kid in an inner city school, in the burbs or in the boonies?  

Post # 16
2552 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

NO, how paranoid!

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