(Closed) You let your teenage daughter carry what?!

posted 8 years ago in Wellness
Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Honestly, I think it’s necessary to prepare for the worst. We’ve just had a tragedy here where a mother and her daughter were kidnapped from the shopping mall’s parking lot by one man. He raped the 10 yr old daughter and killed the mother. Things like that don’t happen around here frequently, but it still makes you second guess your own safety and ability to defend yourself. As long as my daughter was well adjusted and I taught her to be responsible about it, I’m all for allowing her to carry pepper spray or an alarm. Then again, my Fiance is a former MMA fighter and is already insisting that any kids we have will be taught how to kick ass 😉

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@TopazTurtle:  I will never give any daughter of mine mace. It gives you a false sense of security. It is too easy to still seriously hurt someone even after you have been maced.

 

I WILL however, encourage all of my future children to do martial arts.

Post # 20
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Bee Keeper

It would depend on a variety of factors like:

– how responsible is my kid

-what type of environment are we/they in ( I.e a school that’s been known for disciplinary problems or more of a stable environment)

Overall,  I definitely feel that personal defense and safety is important,  especially for females. It would really come down to how responsible I felt my teenage daughter would be with mace.   

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

The day I moved into my first apartment before I started college, my dad gave me an industrial strength can of mace. Never used it, but always had it in my purse. I didn’t see it as a replacement for vigilence and common sense (I mean, I wouldn’t think hey I’ve got some mace, let’s take a jog down a dark unfamiliar alley at midnight!), but never hurts to have a little something extra that could help in your defense.

Post # 22
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Busy Beekeeper

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@Cady:  Dunno about mace but my daughter will be taking self-defense classes.
 

Agreed. Think a self defense class will be far better to her not only giving her self confidence but has more real world impact. Sorry but if she leaves the mace behind or if it malfuctions, then what?

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

@TopazTurtle:  If I felt the need to carry it for my own personal safety, then why in the world would I not want my teenage daughter to carry it?  Hopefully, I’ll raise my children to be mature about self protection and when they are old enough to go out alone with their friends, I would expect they would be mature enough to handle these devices.  Accidents can easily happen to an adult as well, so I would be less concerned about an accident and more concerned about maturity level.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

For sure! People are crazy. It’s better to be safe than sorry!

Post # 25
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

Mace is illegal, so no.  A personal alarm sure.  I carry one, but should be better about taking it with me.  I would encourage a son to carry one too, but unfortunately I think that could create problems.

Post # 26
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@batwoman:  This.

I think a self-defense class or martial arts of some kind would be a better choice. Both of those will allow a person to defend him/herself, but also instill confidence. 

We have a friend whose 7 year old takes martial arts. A boy tried to kiss her. He’ll never try that again. 😉

Post # 27
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Busy bee

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@misspeanut:  Much agreed. I live in a city and take the subway every day, so I carry mace in my coat pocket mostly to help at least FEEL safer. However, being vigilant and having common sense is always a necessity. I refuse to take the subway after 8 p.m. (even with my bf sometimes depending on where we are) just because I’ve been through some scary situations at night on the subway that my nerves just cannot take anymore. 

I personally wouldn’t have my teenager take it to high school just because I wouldn’t want her being caught with it and possibly getting into big trouble. However, outside of school, I think it’s ok. Unfortunately, our world is not as safe as we would like it to be. I think it depends on the age and maturity of the teen in question. I wouldn’t trust some adults with mace in all honesty. However, it is a tool for self protection, and as long as those who carry it understand its capabilities and how to properly use it, I think it’s ok.

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@TopazTurtle:  Than no.  If their school was on the south side of Chicago or something than I could see the reasoning.  But in the country?  No.

I agree with teaching self defense.  My mother is a 72 year old green belt and goes over stuff she learns in class with us.  DD likes to have DH put her in holds that she breaks out of.  Way more practical than fumbling around in a bag trying to pull out mace or an alarm.

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

When I lived alone 6 hours away from my family, I carried Mace with me at night. I never took it with me to class, but I always had it after. I was 18 and 19 at the time.

Post # 29
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Wannabee

Watch this!  This is a girl who understands her equipment.  She has practiced safety and marksmanship.  She is confident and proud.  She has a skill.  When you watch this, hopefully it will put it into perspective on how easy pepper spray is to use.  Its non lethal and easy to conceal.  With skills like this you and your daughter can sleep in peace.

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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TopazTurtle:  yes. I carried both from 14 on. My father’s idea. I’m glad he taught us personal safety. 

 

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