(Closed) You look cheap

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@joya_aspera:  I am with you on this one! The saying “Money can’t buy you style” comes to mind.I have seen really expensive items,that look tacky and cheap, and if I hadn’t seen the label or logo,I would have thought “how cheap looking”.Also, things can look expensive and not be,as joya aspera said, something that is understated and timeless goes a long way.

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Wait, she wants people to go all-out for black tie and they’re not even getting dinner?

If you wanted to, you could totally point out how “cheap” that looks, but then you would be just as rude as she has been thus far, and there’s no point in that. It’s probably better to call her out on how “cheap” her behaviour seems – abrasive, uncomfortable, unrefined, incredibly low-class. See what she says to that.

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Let the cards fall where they may.

She can call you cheap and you can call her tacky, misinformed and rude.

Post # 35
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@oldmatron:  I don’t think I’ve ever met a Burberry coat that’s looked cheap, but honestly no matter how many times she said that I wouldn’t say anything. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and if it makes her feel better to call your belongings cheap, so be it. That’s her hangup, not yours.

As @BrandNewBride:  said, a knowing smile is all you should be giving. Take it in stride… You can always laugh to yourself about her ‘black tie’ affair not serving people dinner. Which is hysterical,  unless someone owns a tux, they’re renting one.. for a wedding where they’ll more than likely go home hungry. Sounds like a ball.

Post # 36
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@oldmatron:  Apps only and she expects black tie?  I would be pissed if I came dressed for black tie and didn’t get fed a plated meal with at least 3 courses.  There are certain expectations by guests when black tie is expected to be worn.  I would find something else to do on the day of her wedding because it’s going to be a huge bust.

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@oldmatron:  How insulting!!! Regardless of whether or not she agrees with your fashion tastes, she shouldn’t be saying it looks cheap. Next time she makes such a comment, you should give her a gracious one-upper and say, “well it certainly wasn’t cheap! it’s real/authentic, I got it from the Burberry store, blah blah blah.” This response should suffice even if she meant cheap as in looks distasteful to her.

Post # 38
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Your friend may be feeling a little jealous of your clothing and jewelry and maybe is worried that you outshine her or are more stylish than she is. So because of her insecurities she lashes out calling things cheap.

 

I may be in the minority but posting you own a $4000+ designer coat with details of it being a runway design doesn’t scream class to me either, but I’ve never been one to flash labels. Your friend is probably feeling sub par combined with wedding stress and there you go. 

Post # 40
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2004

I am sorry that your friend doesn’t have the best tact.  I am not sure if she means cheap or classy, but either word is hurtful.  However, spending a lot or over paying doesn’t mean that something is classy or stylish either.  I wish that you would have posted photos of the earrings and coat.  You know what the items cost; plus, they are sentimental.  To the rest of the world, sterling silver and white sapphire jewelry can be costume jewelry and a patent leather coat can look cheap.  Style, class, and cost are 3 different things that can happen together or not at all.

 

I suggest that you give her an etiquette book and a dictionary or thesaurus for a wedding gift.

 

 

Post # 41
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@oldmatron:  I’d point it out: “how do you define cheap exactly? Burberry costs x and I don’t know about you, but that’s not cheap. Maybe cheap means jealous.” 😀

Post # 42
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Maybe she’s jealous of these items and is calling them cheap/tacky whatever because of that? Does she know that these are designer peices? I would not be throwing it in her face either way though. I don’t think it’s going to change her mind or behavior. 

Just say “I’m sorry you feel that way” and leave it at that. If someone has made it this far in life not realizing that you shouldn’t call peoples things “cheap” to their face, I’m not sure a witty comeback is going to fix that. As satisfying as it would be, I think it would probably add fuel to the fire. 

Post # 43
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@oldmatron:  i’d totally point it out. she sounds jealous. 😉

my friend told me once in front of our other friends that i looked like a ‘starving african child’ because i had lost weight (like 5 pounds, seriously). and i straight up told her i thought that was insensitive and unkind, and that if she was truly worried about my weight or health she would have spoken to me in private. pretty much shut her up.

for the record, i body build and am by no means underweight.

Post # 45
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@oldmatron:  What’s cheap is having a black tie affair where the guests all leave hungry and stop by McDonald’s on the way home. 

Post # 46
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Oh I would definitely point out that those are real jewels and a Burberry coat. She deserves it.

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