(Closed) "You marry your father." – How true is this?

posted 5 years ago in Family
  • poll: How comparable is your DH/FI to your father?
    They are so alike... It's uncanny... : (81 votes)
    17 %
    A couple similarities here and there, but nothing dramatic... : (217 votes)
    45 %
    My DH/FI is absolutely nothing like my father... : (186 votes)
    38 %
  • Post # 3
    3941 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    My Dad passed away recently, but he was so much like my Darling Husband.

    Same personalities, same outlook on life, same humor, same wits and smarts.

    They did have big differences though and that came to their handling of money and ambition.  I got the better end of that stick than my Mom did. 

    But with  my Dad having passed away, I’m glad that my Darling Husband is so much like him.  It reminds me of my Dad, and not in a “creepy” way.  Just that when my Husband says certain things I always laugh and say, “That’s a Dad joke.”

    Post # 4
    339 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    My father and Darling Husband couldn’t be more different, and I am so thankful for that! My father’s a horrible person! I couldn’t have married anyone like him.

    Post # 5
    214 posts
    Helper bee

    My SO is nothing like my dad, though I have heard this line of thought before! Nor am I anything like my SO’s mom.

    My SO is an extrovert and happiest out and about with a big group of friends, brown eyes and darker hair, sensitive and open to talking about his feelings. My dad is none of those things… they are both great men though and i’m happy to have them both in my life ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 6
    5660 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My Darling Husband is more like my brother than my father. I typically don’t really see many similarities between my dad and Darling Husband besides hobbies like golf and sports. But I don’t feel like surface things like that apply to this saying. I think it’s more about personality, how they react to things, their sense of humor etc… And while my Darling Husband and father get along, I never look at him and think he reminds me of my dad.

    Post # 7
    94 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I definitely married a great man who’s lifestyle & personality are very much like my dad’s. It dawned on me the day before my wedding, sitting having coffee with my best friend. I looked at her and said “oh my God I’m marrying my dad!” We both looked at eachother in shock then started cracking up. It’s now a good thing although I freaked out for a minute lol.

    Post # 8
    7311 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    Mr. Lk is a more cautious and pessimistic version of my Dad. They both have pretty long fuses that explode rather spectacularly if you push them too far. And they will both eat pretty much anything you cook for them (which is nice). And they are both very hard workers who want more than anything else to take care of their family. But where my Dad flies by the seat of his pants, Mr. LK must always have a plan and 5 back-up plans. Where my dad approaches life as “it will all workout somehow,” Mr. Lk’s approach is “it’s all going to hell in a handbasket unless I prevent that from happening”. Their general perspective on life is very different, but their core values are very much the same.

    Post # 9
    6530 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @MrsNewDay:  there are a lot of similarities between Darling Husband and my Dad, they don’t look alike except they are both very tall. My Darling Husband never met my father, he passed away long before I even met Darling Husband. I was 13 when my Dad died.

    They both love to cook

    They are/were hardworkers

    NOt into sports but if invited to a game with his buddies, they would attend

    Both love movies, especially horror!

    Both are/were very funny, love to laugh, love to be around people and just make jokes.

    THey both just love being happy and nothing bothers them.

    They are the type of people that will give their shirt off their back

    I could go on and on lol

    Post # 10
    6256 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    My dad was….worthless. So I have deliberately screened out men who shared his characteristics, which was easy, since I didn’t want to date a sociopath to begin with.

    My sister did wind up with a guy like our dad, though. Her divorce was finalized in October.

    Post # 11
    4495 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Its not true at all for me.

    My dad is a scumbag and a drug addict. My Darling Husband is absolutely nothing like him. If he were, we would not be together.

    Post # 13
    3120 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @MrsNewDay:  I actually Married my brother.  My father and I are way too similar and that would be like a tornado.

    Post # 14
    371 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Darling Husband and my dad have so much in common, it’s scary! Everyone notices it, even family and other acquaintances. Not only do they look similar (shaved head, facial scruff and muscular with tattoos), they have very similar senses of humor and share a lot of the same hobbies (both super into fitness, dad’s a big UFC fan, Darling Husband used to fight MMA professionally and they both love Frank Sinatra and big band music). I am super close to my dad though and he’s an amazing guy so I don’t think it’s a bad thing. 

    Post # 15
    2435 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    They have the same goofy sense of humor and they interact with children similarly. But that’s about it. My dad is handy and good with tools, SO is not. My dad is sort of wild and spontaneous while SO is more reserved and shy. SO is very well dressed and cares about his appearance more than my dad. They are a completely different build as well- my dad is shorter with broad shoulders, while SO is shaped like a telephone pole haha

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