(Closed) You may now kiss the bride …

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Ah great point!

Where did all these traditional lines come from anyway… did someone make them up a hundred years ago or something?

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

Maybe back in the day it was because women actually saved themselves for their weddings.  So it indicated that he would not be defiling her honor to kiss her.  But now?  Well, I didn’t propose did I?  I think some traditions are just traditions, and not a social reflection.  Otherwise there would be bras involved in the Unity candle traditions!!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I love tradition, so that’s the line we will be using. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Oakland Manor

I’m not sure what we’re going to do, but we’ll probably keep the line. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2007

My pastor always says "You may now kiss your husband" – so apparently he wondered this as some point as well.  Change it if you want to – the guests ALWAYS gets a kick out of it at his weddings!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I guess I never thought of it as anything more than a tradition? We’ll definitely be using it.

All I know is that I can’t wait until that exact moment. =)

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Hmmm… I think i like "you may now kiss your wife" instead of "bride". Also, on that note, i also like "Husband and wife" and not "man and wife".

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I have been mulling over the same thing… wondering how to change it. I should look at some more examples of different things to say, like "seal it with a kiss" but that doesn’t feel right… I think gji7 has a good suggestion, and I know people would get a kick out of it! I’ll have to see what Dear Fiance thinks.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I agree! The phrasing of that has always seemed a little awkward to me! I also dislike the word "obey" in the vows. That’s definitely coming out!

I like the idea of "You may kiss your husband," but I don’t know how much the Catholic church where I’m getting married will allow us to customize. ๐Ÿ™

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

We discussed having the officiant say, "You may now kiss" and leave out the gender identifiers.  The important part is that we get to kiss, not who is initiating!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

On the sexist/feminist note, I also dislike the couple being introduced (and referred to at other times) as "Mr. & Mrs. Michael Smith," etc.  Does that bug anyone else?

My mom’s church has always sent her mail addressed to "Mrs. Jeffrey LastName," and she hates it. She’s like, "I’m not Mrs. Jeffrey LastName, I’m Mrs. Jenny LastName!" She’s very proud to be married to my father, of course, but she wants to be referred to by her own first name. I feel the same way.  I suppose I would rather we just be introduced as "Mr. & Mrs. Smith," or "Michael and Kate Smith."

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Amy – "You may now kiss your wife" is cute!

 

I personally like the tradition, it makes it feel real to me.  If I changed it, it just wouldn’t be right.  It wouldn’t be that moment and those words I’ve been waiting to hear for so long!

But that’s just me!

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m not sure either, but I love the way it sounds, so I guess we’ll keep with tradition.

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