(Closed) you must-do activity

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
1423 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I don’t know if I’m in the minority or not, but I didn’t change anything, because I was pretty laid-back to begin with.

I didn’t step anything up when I first starting going out with Fiance, nor did I let anything go the longer were were together. I made it a point to not change or “enhance” my appearance/personality, because I didn’t want to fall into the cliche of letting myself go when things got serious and long-term.

I shower, shave, get my haircut, buy clothing, see friends, etc. the same as before. I never was one to go to the gym (can’t afford it), get manicures (had an allergic reaction to the products used), and I don’t wear makeup (sensative skin, so I only wear it on special occasions and in limited amounts), etc.

And we have the same type of dates and just as often. We never really “dated” since we were friend for four months before knowing each other. We just eased on into life together and knew each other as we truly were beforehand.

Post # 4
1416 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We still do everything the same. I stopped drinking alot of water ( I used to drink 10 bottles or more a day) started dating my man and he ALWAYS drank soda. So I gained weight from that. But getting my butt into gear and stopped drinking soda haha

  I still get mani/ pedis every thursday with my 2 best friends. We still go out on dates and all that.

Post # 5
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I guess mine is all of those, but I always did that stuff.  Gym 5-6 times a week, nails always done, hair cut & color every 8 weeks, makeup every day, threading every 6 weeks, bikini waxes, etc.  But this is because I like to take care of myself, not just for my husband.

Post # 6
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I never did and still don’t really wear make-up. We met at the gym so luckily, he was attracted to me even at my nasty sweat-stained state haha. Although we did gain weight, we still work out…just not as hard 😛 

Post # 7
5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@hotchildinthecity:  This. I like looking good for me, and if Darling Husband is happy with it, well, that’s just a bonus.  I get my hair done every 5-6 weeks, always do my nails, run almost everyday, etc.

Post # 8
4272 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Never wore makeup a whole lot or did much to my hair. Always just put it up in a ponytail. I rarely ever get pedicures or manicures. It is one of the reasons my husband said I was a “keeper”, it was just really important to him to have a girl that can up and go in a matter of minutes. Plus it turns out that ponytails were a huge turn on for him. That hasn’t really changed, I will dress up when we go out on a date night or whatever sure… I was just never really girly or put a whole lot of thought into my looks. I mean don’t get me wrong, I made sure I wasn’t gross and stinky or anything like that. ha!

I make sure to watch my weight at least. I don’t go to the gym although I am constantly “working out” at my job for 8 hours and come home beat up and sore. It is kinda funny because my husband works construction which is a very different line of work and yet we are both equally exhausted with scratches and bruises to share. I go on dog walks with the neighbors and try not to eat alot of junk.  I just try to make sure I don’t go over 110. I am also healthy and thats what matters to me.

So yeah…thats about it!


Post # 10
169 posts
Blushing bee

I did change, somewhat. I had gained weight and stayed mostly single/lonely during grad school, so I eventually came to the decision that I needed to take better care of myself in all ways – exercise better, eat better, de-stress, and find someone to love. I made a goal that after I started feeling better about my looks, I’d sign up with online dating! So, after about 20lb lost, I signed up. I met my Boyfriend or Best Friend pretty much immediately, and while we were dating for the first 4-6 months, I was still actively working on losing weight in order to reach the weight I’d been at when I started grad school. I was doing it mostly for myself and my own health, although a part of my reasoning was that I wanted to be attractive for my partner. When it became clear he was attracted to me even when I was chubby, I’ll admit I lost a good bit of motivation for continued weight loss! Plus, while we are dating, I eat out a LOT more than I normally would, so it’s hard to keep losing weight! I’m now trying to reach a balance between taking care of myself  and continuing to lose weight, but still being flexible enough to have fun (even food-related fun!) when I’m together with the Boyfriend or Best Friend.



Post # 11
676 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If anything I actually get dressed up more now. I always dress nice do my hair and makeup etc. I don’t get my nails done anymore but that is because of my job, they would be ruined in 2 hours lol. I put on weight before getting into the relationship with Fiance but haven’t gained more just haven’t gotten this original weight gain off. But I feel like I want to look as nice as possible with my Fiance so whenever we go anywhere he is proud to show me off. 🙂 Oddly enough he likes it when I wear jeans and a tshirt….it doesn’t happen very often.

Post # 13
3471 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

The Gym.  About a year into our relationship Fiance and I moved away to college, and to a rural area, I went from walking everywhere and being very active to going nowhere and when I did, I always drove.  I gained weight, I developed some medical issues, and it was just all kinds of bad.  Since graduating I was able to get back into an active routine, and I found a great Crossfit gym that I now visit at least 4 days per week. 

It has little to do with looking good, it’s about feeling good for me. I hated the person I became when I stopped being active.  FI and I are both very active people in our hobbies on the weekends, but I need something during the week too, that’s my “me time”!  

Post # 14
597 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@hecallsmelove:  Haha, I’ve already been letting myself go. I don’t really even shave my legs anymore because he doesn’t care. For the first time in my life I can be whoever I want to be and someone loves me! 😀 

Post # 15
310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I work out.  However, I was working out before we were engaged.  I worked out the morning we got married. I still work out.  Hehe…I get waxed.

Post # 16
1377 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I gained a bunch of weight during six months of traveling in some seriously delicious countries and I have yet to lose it. I’m in a LDR, but my Boyfriend or Best Friend sees me regularly on skype and he always comments that I look pretty/sexy. It’s fantastic to have such an accepting partner, but it makes it harder to motivate myself to lose! (And I believe him because his ex was way bigger than me and he obviously found her attractive since he dated her for years.)

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