Post # 1
Two of my friends love their jobs, in the same field as me. They saw me the other day after work and claimed I looked miserable. I think I was just really tired, try staying up all night with your sick, vomiting dog and then working a full day with a 2 hour commute (Parent bees, I’m sure you’re thinking ‘been there, done that’ :)). They both urged me to get a new job and I need to get out of my current job ASAP. Full disclosure, I am looking, but haven’t had much success, just because I think I should be able to get better pay. They both claimed that I need to be super happy and love my job, otherwise a job isn’t worth it. To me, a job is a way of paying rent. It’s not my pride and joy. When I told them that I don’t think it’s necessary to be super happy and love your job, as long as it’s whatever and tolerable, then it’s fine, they were both shocked. I just think it’s silly to continuously chase after happiness and up leave when you’re not super happy, I feel like then you’ll never be happy. My job is okay. I don’t love it, but I know I’m not miserable at it. There are times when I get stressed out, but for the part, it’s okay. I have good coworkers. My supervisors all like me, and I get good feedback. I’m not particularly fond of my big boss, because I feel like he can be a jerk for no reason to some people, but he’s always been nice to me. I’m not bubbling with excitement and love about my job like my two friends are. One always talk about how great her job is and tells everyone she meets what she does and talk their ear off about it, which is great, and I’m really happy for her. I guess my job is not my source of happiness, so I don’t usually talk about it unless people ask me about it. Bees, your thoughs on this? Do you think you should continuously search for a job that makes you super happy and that you love or think a job is just a job, as long as it pays the bill, and it’s tolerable, it’s fine, there’s more to life than your job?
Post # 2
If youre one of those people that love their job, great!! For me, it’s not necessary, as long as it’s not miserable, that’s fine with me. I do it for the money, not the enjoyment of it. I do it cause it pays well, and affords me the life style I want. I work to live, not live to work.
Post # 3
I’Ve had jobs that I loved and put extra hours in for nothing as I also thought it defines you as a person, I’m now the opposite. It’s a means to an end and think I’m never going to really love what I do, if I did something I loved it wouldn’t pay as well. I finally realised ‘It’s just a job’ and that’s what work should be.
Post # 4
I think you should find a job closer to home or move closer to your job. Thats 10 hours a week (assuming its 1 hour per way…) of commuting. 40 hours a month- a full work week in your car/public transit! Per month! Not to mention the expense of it… commute and happiness are tied together hand in hand, studies have shown.
I think you have to have 2/3 to be happy: like your work, like the money, like your coworkers. Its rare to have 3/3. 2/3 you can make it work. 1/3 its time for a new gig.
Post # 5
These friends of yours clearly don’t expect anyone to work cleaning septic tanks.
Although maybe that’s unfair, there could be someone out there who gets a giddy thrill climbing into an overflowing septic tank. But I imagine most of those guys and gals are repeating “think of the money” in their heads the entire time.
Post # 6
Yes, that’s what I think too! My job pays my bills and if I did something that I really loved, yeah, I probably wouldn’t be able to pay my bills. That’s why I do volunteer work on weekdays, that’s when I get to do something that I truly love.
Post # 7
Totally agree. As long as my job is “okay” and not soul-sucking, I’ll survive. I’ve never really cared about having a career, though. As long as I can pay bills and live how I want, an ok job is just fine.
Post # 8
I can say without question that I have never had a job I loved more than staying home.
Work = Money = Stability and lack of financial stress.
Post # 9
Are you SURE you’re not miserable? For them to assume so and actually voice it makes me wonder if you’re giving off an air you’re not aware of. Try to be a touch phonier, for the sake of your job not your friends. That last thing you want to project is that you’re miserable.
My sense of self worth is not proportion to my job title. Thatbeing said, Iwork a low level semi professional job, but this was by choice. I choose to seek happiness elsewhere. If I was more of a “career woman” then I’m sure I’d place more value on my work, but to me I go to work because I have to, lol. I like my job. I like how I have the time to be bored and that I spend a fair emount of time paper pushing haha I do have to keep on my toes and make sure I don’t “look” bored or ungrateful because im really not.
Post # 10
Positive that I’m not miserable. I work with a couple of pretty miserable people, so I think I know what misery looks like. I think I have a good attitude when I’m here. I keep on getting raises and got a promotion within a year and received really good feedback, so I think I’m doing okay. I really think my friends are used to seeing me all happy and bubbly, but that day, I was literally about to pass out at dinner, because I was so tired. I wasn’t smiling too much either, so I really think they mistakened that for misery.
Post # 11
I value my job and sometimes I like it, sometimes it can be very stressful and busy, and then I don’t like it as much. I feel good about what I do, but I certainly wouldn’t say I LOVE my job. I think it’s important not to be miserable at work — it’s a significant chunk of our lives that we spend there — but no, I personally don’t think it’s necessary to be all RAH RAH LOVE MY JOB.
Post # 12
I like my job, I don’t LOVE my job. But it pays well enough to make up for that difference. Plus TBH, I can’t think of any job that I would LOVE to do. Unless someone knows of a job where I can lay by the pool sipping on pina coladas all day while being surrounded by a herd of kittens.
Post # 13
I’ve had jobs I loved. I did some schooling this year and I’m going into a pretty intense program this fall to pursue a career I love. But there are still days when I’m absolutely miserable and would rather be anywhere but at work or working on my research.
It doesn’t matter how much you love your job or career of choice, there will still be horrible miserable days. I think it’s thoroughly unrealistic to expect to have a career that makes us blissfully happy every single day.
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2016 - Sassafraz in Toronto, Ontario
I don’t climb into the tanks myself, but I am a poop scientist who works at a wastewater plant and I can absolutely say there are people who just love sanitation work!
Post # 15
What’s a poop scientist? I have never heard of your profession before!