Post # 1
Fiance & I are trying to keep our wedding a small, intimate affair with only 35 to 50 close friends and family. Now we’re getting pressure from both sides of the family with “you need to invite ‘X’ to the wedding or s/he will be offended we didn’t invite them…” AARRGGHHHH!!! Who’s wedding is it? We’re adults, we’re in our 40s, we’re paying for the wedding ourselves…we shouldn’t have to invite people just because our parents feel they have to be invited. It’s sooooo frustrating!!!!
We put our foot down about a few of them we particularly aren’t close to. My personal feeling is why waste an invitation on someone who won’t come? Or worse, why send an invitation to someone I don’t want there who will definitely come?
I have never been so happy to send out the last invitation today. No more “can you send one more?” requests…we’re out!!! YAY!!!!!
Post # 3
@sopranokris: good for you, stand your ground. i agree with you about who to invite to the wedding. we did it the same way. who do i want to be there? who do we see all of the time? we invited 45ppl.
luckily our parents did not once say, ‘you should invite so-and-so.’ we are encores, mature and paying for the wedding ourselves.
Post # 4
@mypinkshoes – Way to go! Being an encore bride, I really wanted to skip all the “drama” from my 1st wedding (over 20 years ago). I completely agree…we only want people there that we’re close to, that we care deeply for. Not a bunch of mere acquaintances. Congrats on being a newlywed!!!
Post # 5
I think especially since you’re paying for the wedding yourself and you’re in your 40s (meaning, you’ve developed your own social circles!) it’s good that you stood your ground. At some point, you need to put your foot down! 😉