Post # 1
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Busy bee
Okay I’m so over it and need to vent to people who understand.
If one more person asks me if I am getting excited, I’m going to chuck my 3 inch thick wedding binder that now weighs about 8 pounds, at their head. I’m at the less than 60 day mark and I’m at my breaking point as well. I remember reading blogs early on that talked about other brides who hit a breaking point and with stars in my eyes I’d think “that won’t happen to me! I love weddings!”
Then those same people who just asked if I’m excited tell me to enjoy every minute because this all goes by so fast. I suppose when I look back on it I will agree with them, but when, when am I suppose to enjoy it. Cuz it aint enjoyable right now.
I’m stretched to thin, besides planning a wedding I’ve committed my self to way too many other things as well. Like being a bridesmaid in a wedding the week before my own. Did I think I was super women or something. Now I just want to run away. I have like 6 weekends between now and my wedding and 4 of those are booked with non wedding related business. So that leaves me with 2 weekends to get things done. AAAAAAHHHHHH!
And to answer the question, NO I’M NO LONGER EXCITED, I’M STRESSED, I’M TIRED AND I’M PANICED.
Thanks for listening I’m through.
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
Its natural to feel stressed and tired, but you should try to take a break from it when that happens and try to enjoy it because you will miss it once its over. I would just take some days off where I wouldnt do anything wedding related and that helped reset my stress levels during wedding planning.
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
If I had known how much I would want to die during that last month, I would have hired a month of planner. It was too late when I realized I was drowning. When I told DH, he said, “Well why didn’t we?!” …I was trying to save us money!
Post # 4
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Busy bee
I don’t think it’s the wedding planning, I think it’s that people are expecting too much out of me. If all I had to think about was a wedding it would be fine. It is all the other crap people are asking of me that takes my time away from wedding planning. So I feel like I don’t have enough time. I’m thinking about giving up sleeping all together, it is over rated anyway.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
Oh and my house is in shambles and I don’t even care anymore. I told my Fiance to not expect much different then it’s present state between now and the wedding because I suddenly stopped caring completely about house keeping.
Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
- Wedding: October 2019 - City, State
: ok breathe…..you good now? ok I have not yet begun to plan and I cannot say that I wont ever be writing this exact same post. I know this may sound like generic advice but try and remember what the goal of all of this is ya know? the party and planning are just side notes, you are marrying the love of your life and thats amazing! try and remember when you feel like chucking that binder how much you love your fiance and how amazing that day will be. Take everything in stride and remember, its not the end of the world if things dont get done, as long as those i do’s get done you will be golden 🙂 I do hope you feel better darlin!
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
@knvprincess143: I am so over planning, but I am in single-digits now THANK GOD. I am sooooooooo tired of people asking me if I’m ready, excited, nervous, etc. And I HATE when people tell me to make sure I enjoy the day, etc., etc., and how I should really enjoy the planning…sigh.
But at this point I think I’ve got basically everything done, and after this weekend I won’t have any more tasks except to pick up and drop off stuff!
Hang in there!
Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
i’m a week before you and i’m EXACTLY where you’re at. seriously, Mr. Meowerson has taken over everything at this point because i’m just SO OVER IT.
Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
who are these people who selected “bliss the entire time”????????? lol
Post # 10
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3770 posts
Honey bee
This might help, it might not, but make a list of everything you need to finish up. Pick the most important things first, see if there are some you can deligate to Fiance. And then cross the items off as you finish. I am a visual person and it made me feel better ssing how close things were to being done. And then if there are things that are not so important and you feel stressed just forget them, in the end a lot of the little things are worth worrying about.
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
My weddings in August and I have reached stressful times and I still have 5 months to go, I no longer think it’s fun but want it to be here already lol
Post # 12
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Bumble bee
I’m with you and Ms. Meow. A week after yours and this isn’t fun anymore. Maybe if I had an unlimited budget and free reign, this would be easier. But thinking about budget, trying to execute a million things, keep on top of vendors, etc. It’s just a LOT. And I’m not even doing anything DIY.
Maybe take the weekend to do minimal wedding related things. Besides meeting with a florist after work today, I plan on not doing diddly!
Post # 13
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Honey bee
@Mrs. Meowerson: I was one in the “bliss” for most of the wedding. There were 3 things that added stress right at the end (rehersal venue canceling 1 week before wedding, flower company calling to say they can’t get the color of flowers I ordered 1 week before wedding, and then 1 package of flowers getting stuck in customs 2 days before the wedding), but at that point what can you do. It was a little extra work, but in the end everything worked out just fine.
Post # 14
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Worker bee
Girl, I am right there with you. We are six months out, and it’s wrecking me.
@knvprincess143: You are right on about the expectations. They’re far worse to deal with than all the planning details.
We’ll survive, y’all!
Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
@ieatunicorns: OMG IS THAT YOUR CAT??????