Post # 1
I was the girl who had her color palette planned out and cake planned since I was 12… and now that I finally AM planning it… and Honestly, it all seems like such a big fuss to actually do!
I love looking at photos of dresses, and flowers, and cakes, and so on. But actually going out and planning all of it is honestly just eh to me now that I am engaged. it is all so expensive and for just one day on the calendar that I honestly HOPE isn’t the “best day of my life.” I am marrying my FI for a lifetime of best days to come!
Seriously considering just eloping on the beach with my FI and his daughter and having the special moment that way.
Anyone else have a similar experience?
Post # 3
@Gabthebee: I had a very similar experience, except I wasn’t one of those girls who planned her wedding as a child. I found wedding planning to be more stressful and annoying than anything. There were some aspects that were nice, like dress shopping, the tasting at our venue with my mom and some bridesmaids, and picking the way that I wanted things to look. I liked the design aspect more than anything, but actually implementing everything, frankly, was a damn nightmare. And I’m sure it didn’t help that we paid for everything ourselves and planned the wedding where we’re from, which is 1800 miles away from where we currently live.
As a non-bridey bride, I can honestly tell you that all the stress, all the fuss, all the times that I caught myself saying “We should have just eloped!” were ALL absolutely 100% worth it. Even on the morning of our wedding, I was like “Is this really going to be the best day of my life? That’s A LOT to live up to.” But it was. It seriously was. SO worth it. 🙂
The best advice I can give is this: don’t sweat the small stuff. The day flies by in a flash, and looking back you’re not going to be thinking “Oh man, I should have had a photobooth!” You won’t even remember that crap. You’ll remember things like the look on your future husband’s face when he sees you at the end of the aisle, the cake you smear on his nose, and how he was by your side all night having the most fun with you and those nearest and dearest to you both.
Post # 4
@Gabthebee: I know what you mean! I *love* planning other people’s weddings, but when it comes to my own I’m just like… eh. Everything takes so much planning and money :-/ I’m sure it’ll be worth it though. Is your wedding in 2016? Mine’s in 2015 and I think the long engagement is contributing to the lack of excitement…
Post # 5
Well I can give you some advice…
Don’t look at pinterest…
Go with your GUT and 1st option, ALWAYS…you tend to forget why you loved the dress, the color pallette, the limos, the reception hall (or place) in the first place…if I would have went with my 1st choice I would have been much happier than I am now!
Don’t go overboard! Start from the beginning and work your way up, don’t rush to finish things that don’t need to be done right now..
I got a wedding planning book as an engagement gift (I saw the exact one at Michaels it’s big and pink) definitely had a lot of good info.
Post # 6
@BellaDee: I agree with first choices. Like Lori on Say Yes to the Dress: Atlanta said about dress shopping once, “When you find the right guy you don’t keep looking, dress shopping is the same way!” I feel like all of wedding planning is the same way. We picked our first venue, first DJ, first photographer (though we did interview two), second dress on my first shopping trip. When FI proposed to me I didn’t say “Wait, let me see if I can get a better offer from somebody else” so when we found a perfect venue in the first place we looked we did the same thing.
Post # 7
@DarlingClementine: Thank goodness I am not alone!!! It just seems like a whole lot of hassel to me. I love my fiance, and that’s so much more exciting than any “party” could be.
We don’t have and actual date yet, but we are leaning towards spring/summer/early fall 2015. I just put Dec 2016 because I needed to pick something haha.
Post # 8
@Gabthebee: Totally. I never had any illusions that actually planning my wedding would be more fun than just dreaming about it. When you dream about it you don’t have to worry about cost, or taking off every day after work for another meeting or appointment, or whether that style of dress is actually flatting on your body, or fights about the guest list.
Dreaming (and pinning!) your wedding is much more fun than the drudgery of actually planning it.
My wedding was quite different than the one I had in my head. And it was so, so wonderful.