(Closed) You waited HOW long before getting engaged?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: How long were you dating before you got engaged? Are you happy with your decision?
    Dating : (6 votes)
    2 %
    Dating : (7 votes)
    2 %
    Dating 1-3 years before the engagment, wish we had waited longer : (5 votes)
    2 %
    Dating 1-3 years before the engagment, couldn't be happier! : (120 votes)
    38 %
    Dating 3-5 years before the engagment, wish we had waited longer : (1 votes)
    0 %
    Dating 3-5 years before the engagment, couldn't be happier! : (71 votes)
    22 %
    Dating 5+ years before the engagment, wish we had waited longer : (3 votes)
    1 %
    Dating 5+ years before the engagment, couldn't be happier! : (106 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 62
    Member
    1188 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Were together for 7 years before we got engaged in September!  We’ll be married when we are both 26 this coming August.  It felt like I waited FOREVER but now I’m actually really glad we waited until we did. We both feel stable in our careers and it has been SO amazing to have everyone welcome our engagement freely instead of with possible concern as they might have if we had gotten married a few years ago before things were as steady.

    Post # 63
    Member
    6524 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @chickspartan:  at the time i got engaged, we were togethee 8 years and 2 months. We theb had a 22 month engagement. We got married on our 10 year anniversary.

    Why the long wait, well because when we met were 18/19. So we were nowhere near ready to be married. In our early 20’s we were still finishing college and seeking full time jobs. By the time we were 26/27 we were both finally working stsble jobs with a good salary and thats when I figured he would be popping the question. I had no idea it was coming.

    I think your friends comment about a wedding after being together so long is “silly and frivolous” is silly. Just because we have already started our lives together, the marriage and wedding day is still important because its like putting that final seal on your relationship and you are no longer a couple, you are now 1 unit, 1 team that will always stick together good or bad.

    Our wedding day was something that not only we anticipated, but our family and friends. The day we got married, it was like “yes! Finally!” But at the same time we were told we did things at our pace and when the time was right. If we would have gotten married at 23 or 25…we would not have had the wedding of our dreams, we would not have gone on our dream honeymoon, we would not be living the life we have now. We would def have struggled.

    I dont judge couples that wait awhile to get married. For us it was about it being the right time, financially mostly 

    Post # 64
    Member
    1723 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @chickspartan:  we were dating for 1.5 yrs before Fiance proposed… And we will be together 3 yrs 1.5 months when we get married. We are both late 20’s and in a place financially and emotionally that everything just clicked for us. ive never been happier than I am now.

    Post # 65
    Member
    180 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Together 7 years, 9 months, 20 days when we got engaged.  Getting married on our 11th anniversay (long story, but it works for us). My Fiance told me he thought I was the girl he could marry on the second date. Moved in together at 10 months (and I still had a year of school to go). best friends in the whole world, dont remember a fight ever, and I just love him more and more every day.

    On the contrary, my (older) brother was engaged after 2 years, then married at 3. 6 months later, he had to work away temporarily, she met someone and literally forgot she was married! So theyre divorced at 4 years. At 5 years, he announces his new gf is the ex-wifes best friend, who was a bridesmaid. Now at 6 years since that whole saga began, theyre having a baby! Meanwhile, Fiance and I just keep eating pop-corn…..

     

    Post # 66
    Member
    3281 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    We dated for about 2.5 years before we got engaged (knew each other for 6 months before we started dating), and we’ll be married after about 3.5 years of dating. We’ll be 26 and 27 when we get married.

    This is honestly my ideal, dream timing–I lucked out that I met him at 22 and that he was ready pretty much exactly when I was to take the next step. I had to nag him like crazy to move in together, lol–we’d only been dating about 8 months at the time! But he was super-duper ready to get engaged after 2.5 years, as was I.

    Post # 67
    Member
    3316 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Lived together nearly 8 years before the engagement, and nearly 9 years before the marriage.  Then again, until 3 days before the engagement, we couldn’t legally get married anywhere (same-sex marriage).

    Post # 68
    Member
    2091 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    He proposed after 8 1/2 years , but we had been together since we were 14 and he proposed the summer we finished university. We will marry after 10 years together just a few months after I start work (I’ve been studying some more in the meantime). 

    Post # 69
    Member
    38 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2015 - Victorian Gardens

    Fiance and I dated 5 years and 5 months before we got engaged. It turned out that way because we started dating when we were only 18. Now that we’re 24, getting engaged was the next step in our relationship 🙂 

    Post # 70
    Member
    1047 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    We were together for nearly 6 years when he proposed. He wanted to be settled in our lives before he proposed, and we’ve been through various upheavals in our time together, including graduating, getting through a very challenging intern year, dealing with his mothers cancer (she sadly passed away 2 years ago) and moving to the other side of the world. He does say that he should have asked me years ago, but I understand his reasons for waiting and I’m happy that this is now the right time for us to get married. 

    Post # 71
    Member
    14 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    My story is a bit funny!

    We met senior year of HS, dated until we were in our early 20s, mutually broke up for 2 years (in which one of us was dating and the other was literally at the door step of marriage!) and then we rekindled and got back together. It’s been about 2 solid years now and one solid year of engagement. Total years together (on and off)= 7! 🙂

    Post # 72
    Member
    4655 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @chickspartan:  3.5 years, perfect – it wasn’t about how long we dated but about where we were in our lives. We just weren’t in a place to be having a wedding before that. 

    Post # 73
    Member
    159 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @lolot:  This is how I feel about it too. That being said, my timing was much shorter than yours!

    He proposed after 4.5 years of dating, and we got married a month after the 5 year mark. Perfect for us.

    Post # 74
    Member
    2587 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

    @chickspartan:  My FH and I were together for nearly 7 years before he proposed, but I never ‘waited’, and to be honest I wasn’t expecting anything for another couple of years after that, I thought it would be more like 9 years before we got engaged.

    I have never had a single regret about how we did things though, and frankly I can’t imagine personally getting engaged any sooner than we did.

    Post # 75
    Member
    1161 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @chickspartan:  We met March of 2011. Engaged April of 2013. Married October of 2014.

    So dating 2 years 1 month, engaged 1 year 5 months. We will have hit 3.5 years two weeks before our wedding 🙂

    Actually, I was trying to find a way to incorporate our history into the wedding, because I figured it out and we will hit 3 years, 6 months and 9 days together on the day of our wedding! I thought that was kinda cool (nerd alert)

    Post # 76
    Member
    738 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We were together 8 years and 4 days on our wedding day. We met when I was 19 and he was 18, sophomore and freshman in college, respectively. We dated all through college, and got engaged once we were settled in our careers. We knew we’d end up married, and this timeline worked well for us. 

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