(Closed) You waited HOW long before getting engaged?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: How long were you dating before you got engaged? Are you happy with your decision?
    Dating : (6 votes)
    2 %
    Dating : (7 votes)
    2 %
    Dating 1-3 years before the engagment, wish we had waited longer : (5 votes)
    2 %
    Dating 1-3 years before the engagment, couldn't be happier! : (120 votes)
    38 %
    Dating 3-5 years before the engagment, wish we had waited longer : (1 votes)
    0 %
    Dating 3-5 years before the engagment, couldn't be happier! : (71 votes)
    22 %
    Dating 5+ years before the engagment, wish we had waited longer : (3 votes)
    1 %
    Dating 5+ years before the engagment, couldn't be happier! : (106 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 77
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We lived together happily for umpteen (like 14) years before we got married! Being older, having been married before and with 5 (now grown up) children between us, we were in ho hurry to actually tie the knot, so to speak. But earlier this year we realised the time was right. So we got married and had the perfect day.

    We did not compromise at all so far as our wedding was concerned because the number of years we’d been together was irrelevant. So while I didn’t walk down the aisle at Westminster Abbey followed by an entourage and a fanfare of trumpets (because that’s so not us!) it never crossed our minds to creep off quietly either. So we didn’t! We had a truly meaningful ceremony, a wonderful lunch and a really rather enormous evening celebration which included fireworks and flares. I can honestly say it was very high up on my “Best Days of My Life” list.

    Being married has been the icing on the cake too!

    Post # 78
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    2493 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We were together one month and 4 days short of 9 years when Darling Husband finally (!!!) proposed.  I totally resented him for making me wait so long… especially because our Dear Daughter was 5yo by then.

    Post # 79
    Member
    1283 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA

    Fiance and I were together for 8 years, 9 months, 10 days when we got engaged. When we get married, we’ll have been together for 10 years, 4 months. We did start dating when i was 16, he was 17. We had only lived together for a year and a half when we got engaged. We have both stabilized our careers and added a furbaby to our family! It 100% works for us. I definitely think we have the strongest relationship of anyone else we know.

    Post # 80
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    224 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We’ve been together 11 years. However, our situation is a little unique since we started dating in high school. We were actually engaged once before while I was away at college, but we decided we weren’t ready yet. We wanted to get settled first- at the time we were both living at home and neither one of us had good paying jobs, or even a car! The only stipulation I gave him was that I wanted to be married before I was 30. I couldn’t be happier that we waited.

    Post # 81
    Member
    395 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    it was just before our 4 year dating anniversary.  I thought that was a long time to wait! he talked about ring shopping then made me wait 7 months till we got the ball rolling!

    Post # 82
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    8439 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I was dating my husband for about 3 years when he first got my ring, however due to family illness, we pushed back the engagement for a year and a half.  The delay wasn’t really an issue for me though; I wasn’t interested in getting married or having kids, I just wanted to be with my husband (then boyfriend).  I’m glad we’re married now, but I didn’t feel the need to rush things.  I think it’s different for those women that want to start having kids though.

    Post # 83
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    3208 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I got engaged around the same time as my cousin, but the number of people that have reached out to my Fiance and I far outnumbers the support she has received. My Fiance and I have been together for 9 years, while my cousin has been dating her Fiance for less than 2 years.

    My family and friends are more excited that I ever imagined other people could be! My Fiance is already integrated into their lives, and my extended family continues to gush about how they have us “for keeps” now. I know that my wedding day is going to be very emotional for a lot of people, and I can see that my cousin (who has always been the golden child) seems annoyed by this. 

    Personally, I think intertwining our lives in the past decade will make our wedding even more special than usual. I know speeches will include memories from when we were together at 17, or at 22, or at 26. People in our lives almost seem like they are invested in us because we were two goofy teenagers who have grown into very put-together adults. Our friends are entirely intertwined now, so us being together has affected quite a lot of people’s lives in the past decade.

    I’m sorry your friend thought the hoopla of getting married was less special because the length they were together, but everything in my experience has been the opposite of hers. We’re risk averse people and marriage is a very significant contractual undertaking. I’m only in my mid-20s, but I’m proud of the way my Fiance and I have treated the seriousness of legal marriage.  We talked marriage from the first week we started dating, but we waited until everything got truly and perfectly aligned.

    Post # 83
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    176 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    We dated for about 2 years and 9-10 months before getting engaged. Our relationship was not where it needed to be for me to be ready much before that. I am extremely happy now! I would not have wanted to wait much longer especially because it worked out that i should be the one to move to end our long distance – i think i would not have been comfortable doing that without a wedding date

    Post # 84
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    989 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    We were together just shy of 9 years when we got engaged (living together for 8 years) and it will be over 10 years when we get married in June 2015.

    We knew from very early on in our relationship that we would be together forever but marriage never even crossed my mind until about 6 months ago! When you plan to spend your whole life together anyway, what’s the rush to get down that aisle? 

    This feels like the perfect time for us and, as others have said, the reactions of our family and friends who have been a part of our lives together over the last 9 years have been amazing… They are almost as excited as we are! We are completely entwined in each others lives already having spent the best part of a decade just enjoying each other, travelling the world and building our home together…I honestly wouldn’t change our timeline for the world 🙂

     

    Post # 85
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    4891 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    We had been dating for 3 years and a little less than 3 months when we got engaged. I moved in with him last summer, and knew that once my house sold and I started splitting bills with him (and he had paid off some stuff), it would happen. We had also gone and looked at rings a couple weeks before it happened; I just didn’t think it was going to be as soon after we had looked!

    Post # 86
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    585 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    We got engaged on our 10 year dating anniversary, and will get married 12 years to the day that we started dating

    5/30/2003 – started dating

    5/30/2013- got engaged

    5/30/2015- getting married.

    Post # 87
    Member
    234 posts
    Helper bee

    Still waiting on the engagement… We’ve been together since we were 16 and we’re now 26. At 20,21,22 we had agreed we weren’t in a rush to get married and that we just wanted to travel and grow as a couple. Now at 26 we are living together and talking about getting engaged and I’m perfectly happy with waiting but I don’t want to wait any longer than what I am now haha. 

    Post # 88
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    1646 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    chickspartan:  We dated for 6 years and (just under) 2 months before he proposed. It was tough the last two or three years, but now we’re engaged I definitely see why it was better for us to wait. We were 19 when we got together and in the time since we started dating we have:

    – both finished college

    – he has completely Grad School and earned his CPA

    – we both have full-time jobs

    – we own a condo together since last summer

    – we both own our own cars

    – I have less than 7K left to pay in student loans

    – between our savings accounts we have over 30K saved up. . . not including his bonds from childhood and our retirement accounts

    We are planning to be married late next year and will probably hit the 8 year mark before tying the knot. Had we gotten engaged when we first realized we wanted to marry one another then we would have been engaged the month after we started dating. It is much better that we waited until we were both employed and financially stable before taking that step.

    We may have started to build our lives together, but that marriage certificate means a lot to us personally. That isn’t the case for everyone, but it is for us. It’s sometimg that we’ve been working towards all these years to accomplish and it’s going to feel so amazing when we finally have it.

    Post # 89
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    1612 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    chickspartan:  Together 1 year and 3 months when we got engaged.  We actually would have been engaged before but Fiance was looking for a new job and he wanted to wait.  I’m 36 and he’s 42 so we know our own minds and that this is what we both want 🙂

    Post # 90
    Member
    245 posts
    Helper bee

    6 year annniversary. LONG TIME! (we’re waiting for marriage!) but over the moon to be engaged now!

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