(Closed) You want another baby??

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Stay out of it, it’s not your business unless she invites you into it explicitly, like “peanuthead, what do you think about me having another child?” 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

That’s a little nutso, in my opinion.  I’d probably laugh and say “whatever you want to do!”

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’d stay out of it.  Would you want people telling you to have/not have children?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My sister has six children and her husband makes about $28,000 a year. She stays home with the kids. Obviously, I wish I could smack some sense into her, but it’s her decision. I realized a long time ago that if I want a relationship with her, I need to just let her make her own choices; she’s a big girl and can deal with it. Same with your sister.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@peanuthead: If she has asked you for your opinion, that changes things.

I would be honest that it seems like it will be a lot for her to handle, and you could cautiously mention why you think it would be a poor idea (the behavioral problems with the boys). You could tell her that you will of course stand by her with whatever decision she makes because it’s ultimately up to her, but if it were you, you wouldn’t do it right now.

Just be cautious. I maybe wouldn’t bring up the Facebook thing at this point in time; you don’t want to seem like your blasting her parenting skills, or she will just get defensive.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@peanuthead:I agree, it’s not appropriate for her to be posting ANY pictures of herself on the web!!! Don’t you have to be 13 to be on Facebook??? Mom needs to start being a mom and controlling what websites her kids are going to. If she asks for your opinion, I’d tell her truthfully. She’s got 3 out-of or near out-of control kids and she wants to bring a newborn into the mix?!?!!? Bia must be HIGH!

Post # 11
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Busy bee

@peanuthead:not to mention an 11 year old has no business being on facebook in the first place. I would stay out of it unless your sister seriously asks for advice then I would tell her your concerns in a nice way so she doesnt feel attacked and start a fight. By The Way does she know what her daughter is doing and that sexual predators use facebook to find their underage victims?

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@peanuthead:  Is there anyway to report those pictures to facebook?

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

First off I agree that an 11 yr old has NO PLACE on fb! My kids will NOT have a facebook until at least..I mean the very least 13yr old. And if at 13 there would be very strick rules for it and privacy settings.

But, as far as her having another child, if she wants advice then give it to her. But, just because she asked for it doesn’t mean she’s going to take what you say well. Just be prepared for that.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Is your sister on Facebook so she is aware of her daughter’s pictures? If she is, then there’s really nothing to discuss there.

If she’s not, though, you may want to bring it up in another discussion and even talk to your niece yourself about the dangers of her presenting herself in such a way (of course, only do that if you have a good relationship with your niece).

This is a separate issue that needs to be addressed that is not even related to the prospect of a new baby.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

@peanuthead: If she is asking for opinions then I would lay it out for her. 

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