(Closed) "You want *how many* bridesmaids?!"

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Salted_Caramel:  I wanted a HUGE bridal party-I just don’t have that many friends πŸ™ 

Post # 4
Member
5958 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@Salted_Caramel:  Sane or crazy, it’s what you’re doing, right?  All totalled, without ringbearers and flowergirls, that’s 17 people in your bridal party….they don’t make a car that can carry that many people at the same time…only limosines and double decker buses if you want their dates along….I think doing what makes you happy is a priority, just take a minute to look at the logistics of all of it before you commit…either way, it’s all good.

Post # 5
Member
8472 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@lawbride88:  Same here.. I wouldn’t have minded having 5 at the most, which to me is considered a good size, but I didn’t have that many people close enough to me to have that. 

However, I wouldn’t do something crazy and have as much as the OP wants Wink

Post # 6
Member
1193 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We each have 5 and your numbers aren’t that much more than that. When I opened this I thought it was going to be like 14 or something.

Post # 7
Member
323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Do what makes you happy! I wanted a small bridal party (2 BMs 2 GMs) and that made me happy. My cousin is having 8 BMs and 2 MoHs, and her Fiance is having 9 GMs and 1 BestM. I couldn’t imagine having THAT many people, but it is what was right for her.

 

Crazy or not, you need to do what makes you happy. Yes, it might be stressful finding dresses for everyone, or making sure everyone is coordinated with everything, but if these are people you truly want standing with you on your wedding day, I feel like the time and effort (and stress) is going to be worth it. Otherwise, you might feel like someone important to you was excluded from your big day!

Post # 8
Member
2055 posts
Buzzing bee

@Salted_Caramel:  If that’s what you want, I say go for it (esp. if they’re all lovely, supportive people). 

My family has attended some weddings where the bride and groom each had 15+ BMs and GMs (32+ people in the entire bridal party). Now those were insanely huge bridal parties. 

Post # 9
Member
627 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It’s your day to do whatever you want!  We had 8 bridesmaids, 8 groomsmen, 4 flower girls, and a ringbearer.  In all, a bridal party of 23.  No regrets!

Post # 10
Member
1849 posts
Buzzing bee

Just keep in mind that all those attendants require a significant amount of your budget.  Each person needs flowers and a gift, and then you will be inviting them and their spouse/so/fi to the rehearsal dinner.  Just your proposed wedding party is 30ish people on its own.

It is fine to have that many if you want them, but they need to be an immediate entry in your budget for those flowers, gift, and dinners.

Post # 11
Member
120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

At the end of the day, it is your wedding! Do what makes you and Fiance happy! We have 10 gm and 9 bms, and everyone comments: “Are you crazy?!”, but I would rather have our family and friends stand with us rather than regret not having certain people in it later on in life πŸ™‚

Post # 13
Member
5001 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think you really need a wedding of at least 150 people for that many in the bridal party. Otherwise you have too high of a proportion of your guests standing up!!

Post # 15
Member
120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Salted_Caramel:  I know what you mean about managing all of them! Luckily for us, we are older and they are basically all married and mature, so that works out in our favour for sure! My girls all chose their own style of dress, and I chose the colour, lenght and fabric. I thought that was a good compromise, and that way all the girls would feel comfortable in what they picked for themselves. The groomsmen are all going to wear their own black suits, and we are getting their shirts and ties made at our local tailor as our gifts to them. I got my girls bracelets and necklaces for the wedding, and I plan on adding some flashy sandals for them to wear at the reception.

The way I see it, it will all work out if it’s what you want. It is a lot to coordinate, etc, but by the end of it all, I am sure you will be comfortable with your decision πŸ™‚

Good luck and happy planning!

Post # 16
Member
2657 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Wow thats big. But if you like it, go for it.

 

However if you change your mind, before you guys make the final decison, consider doing 2 BM’s for you and 2 Groomsmen for your guy(does not include your Maid/Matron of Honor and his BM). Anyway, put all the girls names in a bag and pick out 2, then do the same for the guys. A fair way to pick your 2! πŸ™‚ ( Remember you dont need all your siblings in the wedding party, what if you each had 10 siblings.)

 

If you do keep all of them, I do agree with another poster that you will need 2 vehicles for your whole party. 

 

Happy planning! 

 

The topic ‘"You want *how many* bridesmaids?!"’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors