(Closed) You want to bring Who??

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 32
1853 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@Cantstartafire1:  Oh goodness I like that. “But what if I have to be a parent?”

I hope everything else goes smoothly!

Post # 33
2375 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

There are numerous reasons I’m having a child free wedding.  The possibility of child going nuclear is one.  And actually, I think the mother had the start of a fantastic idea – let the nanny take the children during the ceremony and go do something fun with them.  That way the parents get to stay, kids aren’t a problem and the nanny is doing her job and everyone is happy.

Post # 34
247 posts
Helper bee

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I feel like we have the same Future Sister-In-Law. It’s a joy to deal with isn’t it. lol. 

I am going to go against the group and actually recommend that the nanny comes along to some extent. I only say this because I have been a nanny and if there is something I learned it is that in cases such as these the child is better behaved and more attached to the nanny then the parents. You could ask the nanny to stand in the back out of the photographers shots or even outside of the venue. They are usually pretty easy going people. On average if the child knows the nanny (who is often the disciplinarian) is near by they won’t act up. This child could be the rare one who listens to the parents warnings etc but that usually isn’t how it works. You could ask them to leave the child behind but if you’re worried about asking the nanny to stay behind I’m sure asking them to leave the child won’t go any better. 

In terms of the party at your house the nanny could go back to the hotel and then have a previously arranged pick up time for the child. This will also give your inlaws a chance to relax and celebrate with you. If they don’t usually do all the parenting this could be a stressful event for them. That should avoid tantrums that the parents might not know how to handle without the nannys help.  Plus depending on the age I’d get some age appropriate things that can be used as distractions such as coloring books, a childrens movie playing on a seperate tv, etc. If a child is busy there is less of a chance that they will act out. 

Best of Luck!

Post # 37
2285 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

I doubt the nanny wants to be in your wedding photos either. I think you are correct to put your foot down. Your sister is being weird and she can suck it up for one week end.

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