(Closed) You want WHO to hold the swords, dear FI???

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee

If he can find the necessary soldiers needed to dress up in Class A’s and hold the swords then let him have it. Treat them like a vendor. They show up, do their thing, and you give them a thank you gift. Maybe make them some custom coins. Army guys love coins.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

We had an honour guard, but it was friends of ours.  Although I have heard that there’s a “ceremonial troop” available locally that will just swing by and hold some (lances in our case) for people at random. 

I just asked my husband how he would feel if he was the random sword holder, and he said if it was within a few minutes driving distance and didn’t really require too much time (ie, he definitely wouldn’t want to attend the reception) he’d be perfectly happy to go out and participate in an honour guard for a friend of a friend that really wanted it and just didn’t have anybody he knew personally in the area.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think if he finds people who want to do it, go for it. It sounds like it’s important to him. I think clealy spelling out what is needed and what will happen will give the sword holders a chance to decide if they want to do it. For example maybe give them a gift or small payment, or gas money, perhaps you invite them just to cocktail hour. I think by clearly making all the details known it will advoid any drama or rude behavior.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

It will look great in photos 🙂 

 

Dont be discouraged by lack of base either. Reserve and guard soldiers are EVERYWHERE!! 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

I wanted to have this at my wedding but I am the service member, not my fiancé…. And I won’t be wearing my uniform 🙁

It is an honor and many service members would do it for the pride of it all of they were not inconvenienced. I would get a thank you gift of some sort for them and make sure they are aware ahead of time their parts and etc. If they know they aren’t staying for the reception and still agree, it is fine.

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