(Closed) You won’t believe what happened at MY thanksgiving (WR)

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
3979 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

No you aren’t a brat at all!!! He is the brat & thats being too kind. I find it incredibly selfish to discourage you two from getting married so he can get married. What the… your anger is completely justified.

He sounds like a piece of work. Be happy you got the good brother 🙂

Post # 6
3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Little brothers can be a pain…there is no denying that. However, regardless of his reasons for proposing to his Girlfriend, he has the right to do it whenever he wants..and however he wants…with or without ring. Since your Boyfriend or Best Friend hasn’t proposed yet, I don’t see how this proposal will take anything from your proposal in any way. I wouldn’t say that you are being a brat…but IMO…it is definitely no too far from it. If your BFs little brother gets married, doesn’t get married, breaks the engagement, it shouldn’t affect your wedding at all. As long as you guys don’t schedule your wedding on the same weekend, I personally don’t see the problem.

I know the situation is upsetting for you but in this case…what can you do?? Let them do their thing and you guys do your thing…..the rest will get worked out somehow or another.

Post # 7
2767 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Just ignore them and enjoy your own engagement.  Try to have as little to do with them as possible.  It sounds pretty bad that your brother is into drugs like that.  He’s going to end up in jail if he keeps doing those things.  My brother is also like that and gets in trouble.  At my wedding apparently some family members were mad that my brother wasn’t a groomsmen.  My brother was even upset too.  But, when people act immature and do illegal things you need to just put them out of your life for awhile.  I didn’t want to give him a huge role in my wedding because he is too unpredictable and could have totally ruined my day.  I would suggest you keep your distance from the brother and his fiance too.    

I mean, you can still talk to them, but don’t be involved in their engagement and don’t let them be involved in yours.  It sounds like they aren’t fun people to hang out with either, since they have sex 3 feet away from you.  Spend more time with other family members and friends!   

Post # 8
217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I am so sorry this has happened to you!  I definitely do not think you are being a brat – HE is being a brat, and that’s just a nice four letter word I could think of. 

But you know what?  The girl he’s with has to take some of the responsibility too.  She has agreed to do these things with him, so place equal blame on both of them. 

I don’t want to say “just let it go” because, honestly, you won’t.  None of us can.  But instead of letting them get in your way and ruin your engagement, just enjoy it.  This is going to sound awful, but chances are they’re relationship won’t last.  She’ll realize it eventually. 

I know I’d be livid if this happened to me.  I’m sorry that it happened to you 🙁


Post # 10
5497 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m sorry! Of course you’re not a brat! You have every right to be upset!

Post # 11
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Wow that really sucks. If he doesn’t clean his life up, he will end up in jail and that girl will leave him when she gets tired of his crap. I promise. Stuff like that doesn’t last.

Do your own thing and seriously, don’t even listen to them. Believe it whenr you see it…hopefully he cleans his act up though. Drugs can tear a family apart, trust me. I’ve seen it first hand. It’s brutal.

Sex 3 feet away? totally gross and trashy. Ew. I can’t even do it with my mom in the same house, 50 feet away, let alone 3, haha.

Post # 12
310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Oh man what a pain! At least it sounds like the marriage won’t really happen. (Well…it doesn’t!) I’m sorry he did that. The less-than-motivated kids in our family have really put a massive damper on our engagement as well and I know it’s tough. Just remember that in all honesty, this is YOUR time, not anyone else’s. Try to remember that you’re the one that matters when it comes to your engagement! 

Post # 13
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Sorry but you just sound jealous.

Get over it–your time will come.

Post # 14
368 posts
Helper bee

I’m so sorry that happened! It definitely sounds like they are trying to “take away” from you and your fiance. I also agree with the other bees in that it’s NOT about them. Keep your head up, DON’T retaliate, and focus on you and your boyfriend’s relationship, your live for eachother, and your future together. Good luck!!

Post # 15
177 posts
Blushing bee

Usually in these situations, I’d think you were being a little selfish, but this one’s a little different.

Whether or not you should be upset, focus on it for 5 minutes, freak out to us and move on. It sounds like your engagement will get more family support anyways and there’s will totally be overshadowed.

Sometimes future sibling in laws can be so obnoxious 🙂

Post # 16
1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@snake: So sorry! I would be upset too!

And yeah, I’m sure you’re jealous – because that sounds like a situation that you’d just die to be in!!! LOL

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