(Closed) "You won't have to wait much longer…"

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: What do guys think "soon" means?
    A couple of weeks : (9 votes)
    10 %
    1 month : (12 votes)
    13 %
    3 months : (14 votes)
    16 %
    6 months : (13 votes)
    14 %
    Within a year... : (42 votes)
    47 %
  • Post # 3
    1791 posts
    Buzzing bee

    My SO and I arent engaged yet, and wont be for quite some time…but he has made joking tones sometimes. And when he was newly divorced he said he never wanted to get married again, but recently has told me a few times that he changed his mind, but there is a checklist beforehand. And we have done almost everything on the checklist. So we shall see…



    Post # 4
    4354 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    From my experience: NOTHING.  I think I have turned into a cynic, SO asked my Dad for my hand nearly 18 months ago and still not a sausage. *sigh*.  I wish you the best of luck though!  ๐Ÿ™‚ It’ll come.

    Post # 5
    28 posts
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Penises everywhere!

    Post # 7
    304 posts
    Helper bee

    My SO comments all the time. It makes it even worse because his family knows when it will happen. We’ve got a little weekend trip planned for late January so I’m guessing it will happen then.  I am freaking out because it’s so close and he has no idea. 

    Post # 8
    32 posts

    So frustrating! I got “soonish” the other day. What does this mean????

    Post # 9
    1848 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I don’t know about you ladies, but when someone says, “Come here” and I say, “I’ll be there soon”…that doesn’t mean a month or a year. That means it’s imminent. Tops a few weeks. Boyfriend says “soon” can be months! O_O

    Maybe that’s my impatient behind speaking. ^_^



    Post # 10
    563 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015 - Alexander Homestead

    @MadameX:  I can relate with how you feel 110%!  My SO has been bringing it up himself a lot lately (and actually I can say he is the one who brought it up seriously before I did!) and I was cool and even keel about it all until he started talking REAL talk! Now I can’t stop my mind from thinking through all of the possibilities. Just 5 days ago he asked me for my ring size and what sort of engagement ring I would like (the stone and metal types) and my excitement went from 0 to 10 in 0.35 seconds! Then last night when I tried to get a timeframe out of him, he said he liked the idea of an anniversary wedding date in 2015 but refused to tell me if he would propose this year! He has used the words “we’ll be engaged here soon” but when I asked if we would have a 2013 proposal (since we already established a 2015 wedding date and we want a 2 yr engagement) he shut down and said it could be next weekend, next year, 3 years, who knows!  ๐Ÿ™ He really wants me completely OUT of this process so he can feel like just he is behind the reigns. He does not want me stepping on his manly pride and me wanting to have a hand in how it all goes down.   Being a type A personality and control freak when it comes to big decisions in my life does not help my excitement/anxioty any.  I hate I can’t give you a proposal story just yet so that you can have my prospective from the other side but maybe you’ll find comfort in finding someone else in your same shoes.  Background: We have been dating 6 years, 4 months, LDR (he is moving to my city this year! (2013)

    Post # 11
    309 posts
    Helper bee

    My SO’s version of soon and my version of soon are two very different things.


    My soon was within a few weeks


    His is within 3-6 months.


    So yeah… I cant help you there lol.

    Post # 12
    191 posts
    Blushing bee

    Me: soon means a few weeks

    A guy or My SO at least: soon means 6 months +

    Post # 14
    979 posts
    Busy bee

    my SO keeps saying VERY SOON, I PROMISE.  WTH is that?  I know he got some $ from his dad for xmas, and it was a lot, enough for a ring.  So i’m waiting. He came up with a lame excuse for us to go to a surprise bday party for a friend on Sunday, why we just found out about t his on xmas day, i have no idea. We are close with the friends, why didn’t they call us sooner? I think he’s blowing smoke up my ass, but I’m not keeping my hopes up….but i’ll let you know if VERY SOON, I PROMISE, means less than a month LOL


    Post # 15
    24 posts

    My boyfriend said it would be “very soon” back in November. To me that means…a couple weeks tops. Who knows what it means to him, but I’m not loving his sense of time!

    Post # 16
    1152 posts
    Bumble bee

    My now-FI is a go-getter, and when he decides to do something, he does it. So I knew that when he said “soon,” he meant within a few weeks.

    But of course no one is the same, so you’d have to decide based on your SO’s personality. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Then again, he purposely made me think that it could be months just so he could surprise me. He proposed the day after the ring came in – he made me think that he was going to wait until New Year’s (a special holiday to us). I wouldn’t be surprised if your man wanted to fake you out like that. ๐Ÿ™‚

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