(Closed) You wouldn’t bring a gift right?

posted 11 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Would you send a gift for a vow renewal?
    Yes : (52 votes)
    51 %
    No : (21 votes)
    21 %
    Maybe, if they had an open bar and shrimp. :) : (27 votes)
    27 %
    Honey! : (1 votes)
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  • Post # 17
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I wouldn’t say anything but if anybody asks I would either tell them you don’t want/need anything OR if they want to give something, maybe ask that they donate to your favorite charity.

    Post # 18
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    i would bring a gift because i like to give gifts. while it is not acceptable to make a note of where you are registered or that you only want money on an invitation, it is perfectly fine to note that you do not want gifts. a simple “no gifts please” will suffice and noone will find that rude.

    Post # 19
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I wouldn’t assume you were looking for gifts, of course, but I would probably bring a little something like a gift card to your favorite restaurant for a dinner for  two, or maybe a gift card for a couple’s massage. Just something that you could both enjoy together that would help you celebrate.

    I wouldn’t even mention gifts, and if anyone asks, just say that their presence is gift enough.  But just keep in mind that there are people out there who just like giving gifts 🙂  But I definitely don’t think you have to worry about people thinking you’re just doing it for the gifts.

    Post # 20
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I recently went to a vow renewal and on the invitation they stated that my “presence at the event was gift enough” so that’s how I knew not to bring a gift. You may want to do something similar on your invites. Good Luck!

    Post # 21
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2020

    You will probably get gifts as you are inviting people to a celebration. You could put a phrase on your invitation like ‘The only presents necessary is your presence”. I did that for my parents anniversary party but they still got gifts!!

    Post # 22
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I probably wouldn’t bring a gift to be honest but I would definitely bring a nice card and write something heartfelt. I think I would just assume, after 7 years of marriage, you’ve got the stuff you need.

    Post # 23
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I would bring a gift.  A lot of people usually do this around significant wedding anniversaries and I believe those deserve gifts.

    Post # 25
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    It might not be as big a gift that I might do for the orginal wedding, but I’d probably still bring something.

    Post # 26
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I would probably give a gift card to a nice restaurant.

    Post # 27
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel

    I’ve never been to a vow renewal, so I’m not sure what the protocol is! I’d probably bring a gift to be on the safe side.

    Post # 28
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I would bring something really small like a bottle of good wine. This is a reason to celebrate, but not really a gift-giving occasion. I would treat it like an anniversary, and I don’t give gifts for those.

    Post # 29
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    Buzzing bee

    I have never been invited to one, but if I was, I would likely bring a gift or send a gift.  Anytime I am invited to a party (bday, anniversary, engagement) I usually bring something.  If the couple was not registered, I would probably give a gift certificate to a restaurant, a nice bottle of wine, or something that I know that the couple is interested in. 

    If you feel strongly about it, on your invitations you could put in small print/italics at the bottom “No gifts please.”  I have seen it done before and I don’t think it is offensive or tacky.

    Post # 30
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    Sugar bee

    I wouldnt spend as much as I normally do on wedding gifts, but I would still bring a small gift or gift card for the couple.  Are you providing dinner or snacks?  If so, then as a guest I would definitely bring something.  Since its a vow renewal and not a wedding, I think its ok to put no gifts please.  It shows you are not asking or expecting gifts and you just want the presence of your family and friends.

    Post # 31
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    yes. if you are absolutley sure about not wanting gifts and want to follow etiquette, then your safest bet is to put “No gifts please.” on the bottom of the invite. i’ve seen it done many times, for weddings, retirements, anniveraries, b-day parties, etc.

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