(Closed) You'd think someone (family member) who had been there would understand

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Busy bee

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Jacqui90:  I am sorry you are feeling bad about this, but FWIW, without knowing your aunts, I would not make the assumption that they were making statements directly related to or judging your food addictions. I think what they said was more of a knee-jerk reaction to energy drinks, since energy drinks have gotten a lot of bad press lately, and they probably did not mentally put together Red Bull with a junk food problem. Unless they know specifically that red bull itself is an obstacle you are proactively working on, I would not assume that they intended to be disparaging. I don’t want to belittle how you feel about this so please know I say this kindly, but this does not seem like a comment to be seriously hurt by because it doesn’t sound like they meant to hurt you. 

Now, given that it DID bother you, there is nothing wrong with responding back to them with a simple but polite “Yea I know. Reducing my red bull consumption is something I am actively working on. It’s hard because it tastes so good (like all sodas) but I really appreciate your concern for me and understanding of how hard it can be to change our habits.” Or something like that.

Hugs!

 

Post # 3
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Helper bee

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Jacqui90:  also think this comment is related to the health risk related to energy drinks rather than the classification as junk food.  There has been reports of heart attacts related to these drinks, or so my mom reminds me all the time.

I hope you can stay strong and work through your struggles

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

As a smoksr, i am regularly told that smoking is bad for me by family and friends and even by coworkers! Its never made me cry, i take it as a concern for my wellbeing

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

There’s an easy solution. Stop posting stuff nobody needs to know. The more you post, the more you leave  open to criticism. The world got by just fine for eons without knowing the gibberish that people feel compelled to share today.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

People tend to not see themselves, that’s why people “project” so easily.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - His Way Church & Chesapeake Room @ Downs Park

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Jacqui90:  Same situation as you…family members on both sides have major health issues and I have a lot of alcoholics in my family. I also rarely drink and never have done anything to cause any type of addiction to take hold of me…except for food. While this may not answer your question, I highly recommend you look at the reviews for this book, purchase it, read it and never look back. I’m sorry your family members weren’t supportive but the best way to get over that is to prove them wrong and/or don’t give them ammunition to use against you. Here is the book:

http://www.amazon.com/Eat-Live-Amazing-Nutrient-Rich-Sustained/dp/031612091X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1433049108&sr=8-1&keywords=eat+to+live

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

If you post it, you’re opening yourself up to comments about it.

Maybe choose your posts more carefully. I’m sure nobody needs to know or cares when and how you’re drinking a Red Bull.

Post # 11
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Helper bee

Why did you post on Facebook then in the first place??

Oh I know – you were looking for your next drama fix!

Post # 12
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Helper bee

Food especially is just one of those things that people feel they have the right to comment on, no matter who they are/what they eat/etc. I’ve gotten and given more “are you really going to eat that?” than I’d like to admit. I think it’s just people hear a lot about food and health a ton from a variety of sources – think the unending list of _____ causes/prevents cancer! you probably see each week – so everyone feels very informed and high and mighty with their ‘health’ knowledge.

Seconding that you might want to avoid posting stuff like this on facebook in the future, if their responses got to you that bad. It can be a great place to gather support and find unlikely people who went through the same thing you’re currently struggling with to back you up, but the potential for reward is often times not worth the risk of people tearing you down. There are no doubt online communities centered around food addictions that may provide you with some online support, if you spend some time researching and googling your way around that might serve your needs better?

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

people don’t associated food as addiction. If someone says they are addicted to food I Will think they are exaggerating (I’m making no judgement on you). Whereas smoking is widely known to be addictive. 

You probably shouldn’t post food stuff on Facebook if you cannot handle people treating is like it’s not an addiction because I guarantee not everyone will take it being an addiction seriously.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

And family and friends who smoke or talk about it around me are often told how disgusting it is. They just say I know and continue. So you should just be able to do the same since you are comparing the two so much.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

You have a lot of problems in your life, and many of them are genuine ones, such as unemployment. However, this issue is so minor that you really just need to forget it. It’s a comment about Red Bull, at the end of the day. Focus on the stuff which is important, and which you can change! Worrying about this is a waste of both your time, and your emotional energy.

In the words of a famous ice princess… let it go!

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