(Closed) "You'll change your mind"

posted 6 years ago in No Kids
Post # 46
366 posts
Helper bee

As a strong childfree by choicer I get this kind of stuff all the time.  People always say things like “your relationship wouldn’t be complete”, “who will take care of you when your old”, and “you’ll regret it”  And of course, “why?”  Kids aren’t for everyone and I’m a strong believer in if you aren’t sure you want kids than you shouldn’t have them until you are sure.  Probably because people keep telling me to “just get pregnant and have one becuase once I see my baby I’ll love it”  Which makes no sense to me.

Post # 47
574 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I hate hate hate hate hate admitting to my mother that she was right.  I still don’t like being around other people’s kids but there’s really something different about your own.  I mean, she’s half me and I’m awesome so how can she not be great? 😛

Post # 48
5136 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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KC-2722:  i think that is such an ignorant thing to say because to some, kids are not “joy” –

I love my daughter and can’t imagine what life would be without her, but my lifestyle, a lifestyle with kids is not for everyone and people don’t understand that.

I would be an asshole if I made a comment to someone who was CFBC and said something like “how could you not want kids” or “kids are fun”

Post # 49
82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

In my old job, in a kindergarden, I could not be sick or feel a bit off without someone asking me if I was pregnant. I had just gotten my engagement ring at the age of 23, and everyone thought I should be producing kids right away? Even though I was on bc every comment made me so scared. What if they were right? What if I am pregnant? What will I do? How will we manage? Both me and now hubby are cfbc as we both struggle with anxiety and seasonal depression. I know that I would not ba capable of taking care of a child. At my worst I struggle with taking care of my self. 

I am horrified by the stories you guys have told. The nerve of some people! Luckily none of my close family has acted like this, only people who don’t know me.

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