(Closed) “You’ll know when it’s the one…” Really???

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I didn’t have a feeling of ‘THE dress’.  I did have second thoughts but went with the dress anyway.  It was beautiful on the wedding day.  I still have what ifs about dresses that I was afraid to try on though.

Post # 4
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7771 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t think I had that feeling.  I just got the one I liked the most that I could afford! 

Post # 5
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4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I didn’t have a “This is it” moment either…but I’m not a highly emotional person about that sort of thing, so I didn’t expect it. In the end, I just picked the dress I liked the best 🙂

Post # 6
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8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I only tried on 5 gowns, but I knew what I wanted and when I tried “the one” on, I just knew. I didn’t cry, but I did keep sneaking peeks at myself in the mirror. I purchased it last November and I am still very happy with it. Not everyone cries or jumps up and down or screams, etc., but you will know the one that is right for you when you find it. I was very poker faced when I decided on my gown. Now I just smile when I look at it.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Oh, I can definitely relate! I didn’t get “that feeling” in any of the dresses I tried on, including the one I bought. I love the dress. I’m really happy with what I chose. It just didn’t spark an “OMG I’m a bride” kind of moment. I chose it because it looked awesome, it had practically everything I wanted, and it made people cry. 😛

To be honest, I thought the dress shopping experience was pretty ridiculous. People play it up a lot, but it was just shopping for me.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Not really for me.  The dress I chose is the dress I originally fell in love with in pictures, online only because no local stores have it, but then thought it wouldn’t make me feel bridal because I’d always imagined some scarlett o’hara huge thing.  So I tried instead to go with a big ballgown poufy dress and tried on several and felt silly in them.  Then I tried on one very very similar at David’s Bridal (but more plain) to the original one I fell in love with online and realized it made my body look AWESOME and it made my Fiance cry when I walked out of the dressing room.  So, I thought about the first dress (the online one) and how it had all that  the DB’s dress had and more, and all the things I kept being drawn to (vintage style, a sheer lace overlay in the back, tiny buttons up the back, lace all over, and same silhouette)… so it just makes the most sense. That and it’s actually cheaper than the DB dress!

Don’t get me wrong, I adore it, but my decision was based more on a feeling of “it is beautiful, makes you look amazing, and won’t get any better than this dress for your budget” vs “OMG this is THE ONE FOR ME”.   I could prolong this whole dress thing but I don’t have time for that really, and I have no fears of being a 2 or 3 dress bride because I simply DO NOT have the money to buy another.  Once I order this one, that’s it, I am done.  A very tight budget helps avoid dress regret, I think!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

There are many brides on here who never found THE ONE. There are also brides on here who’ve found THE ONE after buying 3 or 4 gowns. I am hoping I will be the latter. I am on 2 right now and I really hope it stops there. On the otherhand, if I never find THE ONE I think I will be okay with it. As long as my Fiance is happy (and I know he will be happy even if I show up in a burlap sack) I will be too.

Post # 10
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228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I know this doesn’t happen for everyone but it happened for me!  I must have tried on at least 100 dresses!  I had been looking since Aug 2009 and I found my pretty this May.  I had almost resigned myself to not having “THAT FEELING” but then I tried on my dress and I got it.  I didn’t cry, but I did felt amazing and was beaming!  It really felt like the clouds parted and a light from the sky was shining on me…cheesy, but true.  I’m so happy that I waited until I found “the dress”.

Post # 11
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571 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I liked almost every dress I tried on.  I finally chose one and then 3 months before the wedding I found the dress I knew I had to have.  So glad I went with my gut.  I should have kept shopping but didn’t want to keep bringing my mom out shopping, she was getting tired after two visits!  I ended up selling the first one and its true I didn’t have to ask anyone their opinion about the second dress, it was the one.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Oh and you know what is funny to me?  When you are house shopping people will tell you the same thing.  That when you find “the one” you will know.  And you know what?  It didn’t happen like that for me with wedding dress shopping but it totally DID happen that way for us when we were house shopping 3 years ago!  And my RE agent was SOOOO glad because we’d looked at a crazy amount of houses and were thinking we would never find one we loved on our tiny house buying budget.  It was just amusing to me how it happened just that way.  We found this house and we both just knew it would be our house…

But dresses, not so much.  Maybe because I’m a major clothes horse and have a ridiculously large wardrobe as it is, one that is made up mostly of dresses? Not wedding dresses or formals but still.  I dunno.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Nope, that’s just a romanticized notion of dress buying. I know lots of girls here write that they got that feeling and they cried and everything; but I am skeptical of this and doubt that there is only one dress that can make a girl feel that way. If they had tried on more dresses, had a different budget etc, I’m sure they would’ve found more dresses that look good enought to bring them to tears.

Why is that you can’t decide on a dress? If you’re just waiting for the “moment” I’d say that alone shouldn’t hold you back from buying something if you like it enough. Is it because you’re deadset on certain elements and you can’t find them combined ine one dress? If this is the case you can either go the custom dress route, or keep looking till time runs out and then decide on the one that’s best available. And then stick with that decision and don’t doubt yourself. If you’re just afraid to commit because you think there are other good options out there, know that this will always be the case, and doesn’t mean you’re making a wrong decision.

 

Post # 14
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2054 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I tried on about 50 dresses and when I found mine I couldnt stop looking at myself in the mirror and I felt like the prettiest bride ever. I didnt cry…but my ear to ear smile said it all. after I tried on my dress I didnt want to try anything else on. I cancelled the other appointment I had at a bridal boutique that day. If you are stuck trying to decide between 4 dresses I dont think you have found “the one” just keep looking until you are at least down to 2 you love.

Post # 15
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1032 posts
Bumble bee

I did! I tried on a TON of dresses, and thought I would never have that feeling, but I did! I am NOT a crier, but I definitely teared up. I would keep looking if I were you, that’s what I did.

Post # 16
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293 posts
Helper bee

I had a very similar experience to Ms. Teddy, except I only tried on about 30 dresses.  🙂  When I put on my gown, I felt beautiful and never stopped smiling.

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