(Closed) Young and Engaged to an Airman

posted 4 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 2
36 posts
  • Wedding: December 2014

Hey!  I’m 24, and will also be marrying an air man. I thibk if this is what makes you happy, go for it. You seem mature about it, and you understand that financial stability is key. How long have you been together? Best wishes! 

Post # 4
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

This might sound harsh but do not get married if the main purpose is for the spouse benefits. That should not ever be a reason, only a bonus. I say this from experience! Several friends married quicker than they’d have normally due to the fact that marriage is the only thing the military recognized. It put a lot of strain on their marriages. Some are still married. Others aren’t. They got married, by their own admissions, before they were ready because they felt the military was forcing it on them  

Before you assume I’m telling you that you’re too young or are rushing things, know I am not. I’m saying remove him being in the military from the equation. Would you still be ready to marry him and would marry him within the same time frame if he weren’t? If so, then you have your support when you tell people you’re getting married. It’s not that you’re getting married because his job is leaving you no other option, which is a stigma many couples in your situation face (which is why I’ve addressed this issue as I have).  You and he are ready to get married – yes being married is beneficial for his job, but never feel obligated to use it to defend your choice. You’re getting married because you’re ready. Not because his job is forcing it as your only option. Ready is only something the two of you can determine. Don’t make excuses for why you’re ready. Don’t feel the need to defend it. However, don’t dismiss concerns of the people you respect. Hear them out. Don’t take it personally when they express their concerns. Who knows, they might say something that resonates true to you. They might not either.

Just remember at the end of the day only you and he can decide if you’re ready. 

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