Post # 1
I went to my ob/gyn last week. Who I have seen two times previously. Who I’ve told that I’m married. After a long consultation after having Mirena inserted, he goes:
“so, are you in a steady relationship, like do you have a boyfriend?”
erm… “I’m married.”
1. just because I’m young and having mirena inserted doesn’t mean I’m a hussy.
2. I told you I was [email protected]#[email protected]#)$&@!!
3. My rings were clearly visable.
4. I’m 22, not 14.
I get that he’s a super busy doctor and has a ton of patients to tend to, but you made a note that I’m married, read your stinking notes. Anyone else have an experience like this?
Post # 3
@eliwhit: I’ve never been asked that at the doctor before. Why does it matter if you are in a long term/ steady relationship? Sorry he made you feel bad.
Post # 4
I always feel like the pharmacist (at my very Baptist uni) was judging me when I got my birth control so I can kind of comiserate. They’ve been much nicer now that I had to talk to them about changing my name on the script due to marriage.
My old ob/gyn hugged me when I got engaged so that’s a whole other matter (but she at least noted before why she perscribed bc before, so there wasn’t that awkward conversation too)
Post # 5
@trugem: I think he was asking because I was having some pain and he was wondering if there could be any Save-The-Date Cards (negative, Fiance and I were each other’s firsts).
@Knubbsy-Wubbsy: I’ve been on BC since I was about 15 for killer cramps, so I can understand the judgement lol.
Post # 6
**DH, not FI!! Geeez after 6 months you’d think I could get that straight!
Post # 7
I don’t really think that’s bad…doctors do see a lot of people, he didn’t make a note or didn’t see it, and your hands weren’t really what he is examining, haha! If he had made a comment about your age after you said you’re married, THEN I would be annoyed. But you’re bringing up the age, not him, seems like you’re assuming that’s the reason he asked but I think that’s a pretty typical question regardless of the patient’s age when you’re seeing your OBGYN. Although he should take better notes!
Post # 8
Haha, you can’t blame the doctor when you forget yourself :p
Post # 9
@eliwhit: I was once waiting for my script to be filled and a freshman (very obviously so) went into this whole speal about why she was on this particular bc (acne, etc) so the pharmacist wouldn’t “judge” or something.
Post # 10
I’ve had this before. Our family doctor would always forget who I was, my name, everything! But to relate to the birth control issue and doctors, I hate how they always ask if you have a steady partner. I’ve been with my SO for almost 6 years! They have this on their charts! Read the damn thing! I’m only 22 so I get your frustration.
Post # 11
It’s unfortunate but doctors really don’t have the time to read your entire chart before each visit. It would be nice of they highlighted your name and maritial status- maybe you should suggest it to the office manager. Then again, for a considerable number of their patients that wouldn’t always be accurate either.
It is imprtant that they ask if you are in a steady realtionship when dealing with birth control issues, as many young ( and not so young) women still need educating about disease prevention.