(Closed) young and married vent

posted 7 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@eliwhit: I’ve never been asked that at the doctor before. Why does it matter if you are in a long term/ steady relationship? Sorry he made you feel bad. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I always feel like the pharmacist (at my very Baptist uni) was judging me when I got my birth control so I can kind of comiserate. They’ve been much nicer now that I had to talk to them about changing my name on the script due to marriage.

My old ob/gyn hugged me when I got engaged so that’s a whole other matter (but she at least noted before why she perscribed bc before, so there wasn’t that awkward conversation too)

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t really think that’s bad…doctors do see a lot of people, he didn’t make a note or didn’t see it, and your hands weren’t really what he is examining, haha! If he had made a comment about your age after you said you’re married, THEN I would be annoyed. But you’re bringing up the age, not him, seems like you’re assuming that’s the reason he asked but I think that’s a pretty typical question regardless of the patient’s age when you’re seeing your OBGYN. Although he should take better notes!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@eliwhit:

Haha, you can’t blame the doctor when you forget yourself :p

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@eliwhit: I was once waiting for my script to be filled and a freshman (very obviously so) went into this whole speal about why she was on this particular bc (acne, etc) so the pharmacist wouldn’t “judge” or something.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ve had this before. Our family doctor would always forget who I was, my name, everything! But to relate to the birth control issue and doctors, I hate how they always ask if you have a steady partner. I’ve been with my SO for almost 6 years! They have this on their charts! Read the damn thing! I’m only 22 so I get your frustration.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s unfortunate but doctors really don’t have the time to read your entire chart before each visit. It would be nice of they highlighted your name and maritial status- maybe you should suggest it to the office manager. Then again, for a considerable number of their patients that wouldn’t always be accurate either.

It is imprtant that they ask if you are in a steady realtionship when dealing with birth control issues, as many young ( and not so young) women still need educating about disease prevention.

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