Post # 1
Hello everyone! I am so excited to say that I am engaged to the love of my dreams! I’m 21 and he is 22. Our date is June 25th of next year, he deploys next august and I’m already feeling the stress. Anywho, I’m writing this post because I am feeling bummed because while I’m getting freaking married (!) I realize, I don’t have any female friends to celebrate that with. My Maid/Matron of Honor is going to be my 16 year old sister and bridesmaid will be his 16 year old sister. I don’t have anyone to throw me an even laid back bacherlorette party or bridal shower. I mean in the grand scheme of things, I know it won’t really matter.
I’ve thought about asking my female coworkers if they like to go hang out, grab some drinks or something but I’m not inviting any of them to the wedding so I feel that’s poor social ettiquette, ya know?
I’d like to know how other brides to be may have handled this feeling?
Post # 2
mshoneybeespgbuzz: Hiya! Don’t feel bummed you are getting wed to the love of your life, not everyone is so lucky! I get what you’re saying about not having female friends, I’m lucky I have two best friends. But that is pretty much it. Get your sisters involved as much as you can, and both mums too! Might not be a crazy party but at least it will be with people you love and not people you don’t just because you wanted to make up the numbers 🙂
Post # 3
Hey there! We don’t have a ton of friends either. Our bridal party is 2 friends on each side and then all family. I honestly feel like the less people involved, the less drama that there is. Be happy you are marrying the man of your dreams! 🙂
Post # 4
I’m sort of in the same situation– my sister is my maid of honor, but she’s in college and busy with a lot of other things. My other bridespeople are all over the country, so it’s hard to get them involved in a lot of planning. I didn’t expect them to throw me a bachelorette party given the circumstances, but my sister is very excited to plan something– with the help of my mom. So talk to your sister and see if she and your mom (or aunt or future mother in law or whomever) might be willing to collaborate on planning a small party, and offer to help them pay for it if you can.
Honestly, I’ve found that these boards are so helpful when it comes to wanting to celebrate with people– I originally joined because even though I have awesome bridespeople, I’m self-conscious about sharing things with them because I don’t want to constantly be like OMG LOOK AT MY WEDDING STUFF for the next two years! So post your exciting happenings here, and I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised at how many bees join in to express their happiness for you.
Post # 5
Why don’t you have both of your parents and your sisters go for like a spa/nail day and do dinner. It won’t be a crazy drunken night, but it’ll still be fun!?
Post # 6
mshoneybeespgbuzz: My Darling Husband and I were in the exact same boat! We were 22/24 at our wedding (engaged for 2.5 years), and although there were lots of high school friends running to the altar as well, no one we were close to or even invited to the wedding. Luckily my Maid/Matron of Honor was very excited for us but still just a college student….it was also difficult even just trying to coordinate wedding things with my SIL/bridesmaid. She was in college and the same age as me but just couldn’t care less about what it meant to us to be getting married. We didn’t have any bachelor/bachelorette parties because of this…..my bridal shower was thrown by a lifelong family friend of my mom’s from my church. If you have a good relationship with your families, focus on enjoying this time with those people, because they’re the ones who will be around the most in your future anyways. Just know that you’re definitely not alone on the bee. Congratulations on your engagement!
Post # 7
- Wedding: April 2016 - Granberry Hills
Hi! First off, welcome to the bee! 🙂
Second, don’t feel bad! My maid of honor is my best friend and my bride’s maids are my fiancé’s two sisters. My best friend is the only friend I have been able to stay close to since high school and I only made one good friend in college. My Future Sister-In-Law are AWESOME but one is in college a few hours away and the other is working full time and studying to apply to medical school. My Fiance doesn’t have any close friends who are nearby either. His Best Man is his younger brother and his groom’s men are a friend from high school and one of his cousins.
I have felt a little bad about not having anyone throw me a bridal shower and probably not a bachelorette party but honestly, I don’t need either. I’m not into the stereotypical bachelorette party scene anyway and would probably end up getting my nails done and watching movies! There are plenty of things you can do to instead and nothing says that you can’t organize your own party.
Being on the bee is really helpful! There are many wonderful people and it helps to be around those who don’t mind if you gush about wedding things or vent about wedding drama.
Post # 8
Thanks everyone! Heavenlylove12 you are so right! I am just going to try to bask in the fact that we are engaged!! I love this man to pieces. Anyway, the stereotypical parties aren’t my scene. I think I’ll take my mom out to the spa for some much needed relaxation!
Post # 9
Though I am not in the exact same boat, I just don’t have many close friends. In fact my bridal party is my sister and my DF’s two sisters. i have female friends but not many that I really want to be that big of a part in my wedding. I have a few friends who are also getting married but it is mostly online communication. I never see them. It does get lonley sometimes though.
Post # 10
mshoneybeespgbuzz: sorry you feel. Like this. I didn’t have a hen do or bachelor ett party as I also diadbt have anyone to do it with. However you could ask your mum and his mum, plus your two 16yr old sisters to spa day or something. Maybe also invite your co workers to your reception, then ask about going for drinks. Xxx
Post # 11
You’re not alone! I don’t have many close female friends, and they are now in different states (or countries).
Doglovingwife made a good point about a spa day. Also, maybe create a girly day for yourself? Get some fun bath stuff/face masks or something. Plan a day of pampering yourself, drink some wine, and watch wedding movies on Netflix. Maybe start a weddingbee blog to accompany the day or some online girl chat?