(Closed) young brides

posted 6 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
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117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m a young bride and I don’t really get much heat for it. Most people said “Finally!” when they heard we got engaged.

I’m 21 now but will be 23 when I get married, Fiance is 25 and will be 27 when we get married. 🙂

What kind of comments do you get? 

Post # 5
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10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

It’s pretty understandable for people to judge teenagers getting married. Most are not equipped to handle marriage at that age. If you’re one of the exceptions then good for you!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@alyssa.christine1:  You’re right marraiges end at all ages, but younger people have a significantly higher chance of divorce- as do second marraiges.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@alyssa.christine1: I’m not saying that your marriage is going to fail, I’m just saying that it’s obvious that people are going to be concerned and express their feelings when you’re that young. If I had a teenager in my life who was planning on getting married, I’d certainly question it. I think just about anyone would. Sure, age is just a number but most teenagers aren’t mature enough to be married. It’s not a judgement. It’s a fact. 

Post # 9
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1319 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

My Darling Husband and I got married at 23 and 24. We’d been dating 7 years, and known each other for nearly 10, so I didn’t really hear anything bad. A few vendors were confused because I *look* 17, but when I told them my age, it was better.

Maybe you should re-title this? I think brides in their 20s are probably gonna be hearing a lot fewer negative opinions than you are.

Post # 10
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1715 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Im 22 but no one ever questions it one bit. People think Im 27 and my Fiance is 30 so its never an issue.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@alyssa.christine1:  Not to judge, or offer an opinion about you, but the argument is (and I’m sure even young brides would agree) unless you’ve had a situation that’s forced you to mature faster than most, older people are a lot more stable and sure of who they are and tend to have a better idea of what they want. I mean, they’ve had a lot more experience looking for it.

I’m glad my Darling Husband and I waited until our 20s to marry because we had a chance to fully develop our personalities and become the people we’re gonna be. I was not mature enough to marry at 18, and I agree with @CaitMarae, it’s a fact that most people aren’t. Does that mean you aren’t? No. But it is understandable for people who love you to worry.

Post # 14
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3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yep! 22 here but my fiane is 40 so really the focus is on our age difference. I’ve been ready to be a wife and mother my entire life though so it’s pretty expected from my family that I’m getting married.

No one understands anyone else’s situation so it’s not fair to judge. Just be happy for others, it’s easier to be happy for someone than to be judgemental!

Post # 15
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1426 posts
Bumble bee

I’m 22, recently married, but I would also question someone getting married at 18/19.  I was never questioned about it (though one great-aunt did make a comment about how “young” I am but my grandmother put the kaibosh on it) and I think partly because both mine and his family have members that married in early twenties, including my parents who were married at 20/22 with yours truely in tow, and that Darling Husband is 29 and stable in every sense and I’ve been independant since 18.

Anyway, I wouldn’t necessarily say, “DON’T DO IT! YOU’RE WAY TOO YOUNG!” because that’d be purely hypocritical IMO.  But, I’d just put caution to the wind.  Take people’s opinions with a grain of salt.

ETA: Agree with every word sweetpea87 said!

Good luck!

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