(Closed) Young brides…

posted 8 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 17
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1127 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Merinda1994:  I will be 22 when I get married in a few months, and yeah I have to listen to a loooot of unnecesary comments, specially from my mother.

She is like: “Oh hey, this is my daugther, yeah she is the one getting married in May. Please tell her not to haha!”

I try to ignore it.

Post # 18
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244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I get it a lot! The thing that I hate is that the people I know are so passive-aggressive that they don’t say directly that they think we’re too young (21,27) but they criticise other things, such as us ‘bothering’ to go on romantic dates. I just wanna yell ‘Guyyys, if you went on more romantic dates with your hubby, you’d probably be a lot happier!’

People don’t know a thing about a relationship or a marriage unless they’re in it. Age only matters when a person is literally incapable of making reasonable decisions, due to being too young, or too old.

Post # 19
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1589 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I have a response to why I think people judge young brides. I’m not saying it’s right to judge. I see a lot of young brides on here all the time talk about how they don’t party or how they’re already working. While I do look back fondly on my younger and partying days, I don’t think marriage is about giving up partying. It’s about giving up independence, and that’s huge.

I didn’t even meet SO until i was 26 so I really don’t know what it’s like to want to marry young. I do know that my grandmother was married at 18 and my mom at 19. They both always told me not to get married so young. My grandmother had a long and happy marriage until he passed, but she always said she wished she met him later in life (I remind her that getting married at 18 was very common for her generation. If she waited she would have been an oddball). My parents aren’t divorced, but sometimes I wish they were. They had a good 20 years, but things really went downhill from there. I don’t know if they would have married had they not been so young.

But who knows what’s right. Honestly, giving up my independence has not always been peaches and cream. I guess that’s a downfall of getting married just a tad older and always doing things my own way.

Post # 20
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621 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Merinda1994:  I’m going to be a relatively young bride and I love it! We just turned 19 when we got engaged and will be 22 when we marry in about 5 months (:

 

But I have been with FH for almost 8 years and living together almost 5. I probably wouldn’t get married at this age if we had only been together for lik 2 years and just living together.

 

I haven’t receive any negative comments about or age and getting married in real life, but that’s probably because the people who know we are getting married knows us, and how ready we are for this commitment. When we got engaged everyone we know said “FINALLY” lol. People who we don’t necessarily know us, but know we are getting married also hasn’t said anything, but that’s probably because we are maturely and they don’t know our age so they assume we are older.

 

On the Bee however, I personally never received negative comments, but there are people who make judgemental comments about anyone being married before their approved ages. Don’t pay any attention to them (;

 

Congrats on your engagement!

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