(Closed) Young Brides…

posted 5 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 2
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115 posts
Blushing bee

Try not to stress it, people have something negative to say no matter the situation. My grandparents were 15 and 18 when they got married and have been together almost 73 years. It all just depends on the people. As long as you’re in love and happy, don’t worry about what anyone else thinks. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 3
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3586 posts
Sugar bee

ashleyjj1:  I’ve learned to not care what other people think. The only opinion that matters is your own. People will always be judgemental and will always have an opinion good or bad. be happy for yourself. 

Post # 4
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1125 posts
Bumble bee

Eh people will judge you for SOMETHING no matter how old you are. Usually they base their age judgment on past experiences or just statistics they’ve heard, so try not to take it personally. Darling Husband and I are both 23, so not as young, but I’m sure people judge us as well. We havent had anyone openly judgmental though, maybe rude comments aren’t as common as we seem to imagine they will be!

Post # 5
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111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

It will get easier! I got engaged when I was 20 I am now 22 and getting married next year so ill be 23. At first people would judge but now that they notice we are still together and serious about it no one ever says anything. Just dont listen to them you know that you guys are in love and right for each other thats all that matters.

Post # 6
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10 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Hi! I just got engaged in February at age 20. We’ll be 22 and will have just graduated college when we get married.  One relative asked if it was because I was pregnant (NO). She got married right out of college too, so she of all people should know better! I literally laughed when she asked that. I have been lucky to have a ton of support, so I haven’t heard many negative comments. But I just brush them off if I do! I’ve been with my Fiance for almost 7 years, so I feel like most people completely understand that even though we’re young, we’re ready. Only you and your fiance can truly know if you’re ready for marriage. Have confidence and most people won’t question it. Don’t let anybody take away from your happiness!

 

Post # 7
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472 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

ashleyjj1:  i got engaged at 21 and got married at 23. Hubby was 22 and then 24. I didn’t  really get judgment  from friends or family, but would get judgment  from random people who think their opinions matter lol. Try  not to let it get to you too much. I think now that I’m  married there’s  a bit less judgement though. 

Post # 8
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469 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

ashleyjj1:  I got engaged at 20 and marreid at 22 (just barely). I had a lot of negative feedback about it from customers at work (I serve) but hey, what I do with my life is only my business …. and well now my husband’s lol.  It sucks sometimes but shrug it off. When I heard negativity I would just reply “ok” and walk away. Maybe not the BEST way to do it, but people stopped talking bad about it lol

Post # 9
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287 posts
Helper bee

I got engaged August last year when I was 21 and just graduated University. My partner had just turned 31; there is under 10 years between us (i turned 22 in November). When we marry next Summer I will be 23 and he will be 32.

No one I have met has actually said anything; people probably think our age gap is more of a problem then my age getting engaged! We are in the closing stages of buying our house this month and will be getting our first fur baby not long after!

Maybe it’s because I live in England, but I haven’t met anyone who has said anything negative; everyone can see how happy we are and our excited for us! Or they think it but just don’t say it out loud like the terribly polite Brits we are ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 10
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240 posts
Helper bee

Who care what people think. My fiance and I started dating when I was 16 and he was 19 and then got engaged five years later when I was 21 and he was 24 and now we are getting married five days after my 23rd birthday. No one who knew us judged us because they know how strong our relationship is and how right the decision was. People who dont matter will always have opinions!

Post # 11
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88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

I’m not engaged but it’s something we have discussed and when it’s brought up when others are around they do have an opinion but at the end of the day people are going to pass judgement on whatever it is you do. Just need to take it and let it go through the other ear ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 12
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297 posts
Helper bee

I may judge young couples who haven’t been dating a long time and decide to get married after less than a year and aren’t financially stable (sorry, just being honest!!). I personally think it takes more time to develop a strong relationship. But I think if you committ to each other and love and support each other through good and bad times, you will have a strong marriage. I’m currently trying not to judge my Brother-In-Law who just told us of his wedding date (no proposal yet) in February. His girlfriend/fiance is 21 and he is almost 40. They have been together six months. I think they are rushing to get married because there is a child involved (from a previous relationship). Neither of them are financially stable. All I can do is support them emotionally and hope their love is strong and that it works out for them!! And vent to the bees about my judginess ๐Ÿ™‚  I can’t help but judge (over multiple aspects of this relationship), but I still love my Brother-In-Law.

Everyone is different. It’s so hard not to compare other relationships to yours, but that’s what makes us human. I’ve been really trying to let go of the jealousy monster and stop judging and comparing relationships to mine. Now that I’m married (after many years of waiting, 5+), it’s different. But I still can’t help but wonder why we waited so long when there are those getting married after only months. Anyway, jealousy monster be gone, we are totally happy!!

Post # 13
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57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I got engaged at 22. I’m 23 now and will still be 23 when i get married in 6 months. I haven’t really encountered any negativity about it regarding my age. However, my Fiance is 27 and we’ve been together for more than 6 years so it didn’t come as a surprise to anyone. The fact that he’s older probably helps as he’s already established in his career and is at an age where marriage is expected. 

Post # 14
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548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I was 27 when I got engaged and people STILL made comments about me being too young to get married. People seem to have their own ideas on when the right time to get married is but you shouldn’t let it bother you. Different strokes for different folks 

Post # 15
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454 posts
Helper bee

I’m 19 and will be married when I’m 20.  Some people are jealous of me that I’ve already found the one, some people think I’m stupid and should “experience more” before I get married.  It sucks and it’s hard when people make *the face* (I’m sure you know what I’m talking about) when I say I’m engaged, but it’s my life and my decision to make.  I try to not let it bother me, but it’s easier said than done!

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