Post # 1
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Helper bee
How did he do it? And how old were you and your FI when you got engaged?
I was 23 and my fiancé was almost turning 27 at the time. FI asked my dad for his blessing/permission for marriage on Mother’s Day back in 2012. My dad and FI were watching TV in the living room while I was in my room, getting ready to go to church and out to dinner with them and my mom. I heard them both walk outside the house, but I didn’t think much of it… I just thought they were bored and wanted to step outside since I was taking too long! Then exactly a week later, my fiancé proposed! Then he told me he had asked for my hand in marriage a week earlier, and I was so surprised. My dad ended up not telling my mom until after my FI proposed since she might accidentally mention something and ruin the proposal. Ha!
I would love to hear the story when your SO asked your parents, grandparents, or whoever they asked permissions from! I’m just a little curious how many other young brides’ fiancés ask or if they asked permission prior to proposal.
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
@bridetobee16: your poll doesn’t have a yes option… But mine did. about a Monty before his proposal.
im 23 and he is 26. He went to my house one night when I was working, walked in and said “can I marry your daughter” my dad was like whoaaa!! Lol
everyone in his family and mine knew except me haha
I’m glad he asked
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
yes. We were 19 and 21. He asked about a month after we bought the ring and a month before proposing. It was important to me but even more important to FI to ask my dad.
Post # 5
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Worker bee
My fiance asked my papa! We are both 23 and come from very traditional families. My poor fiance, he was SO nervous (my dad is a bit of a jokester, but I am the baby of the family and the first to be engaged!)
I was actually gone for the weekend on a business trip and my fiance asked my dad if he could come over to talk about something… Well, it was to ask for his blessing! Bless my fiance’s heart because my dad (as expected) said “are you sure theres no way I can talk you out of this?”
He was completely kidding and absolutely loves my fiance and is happy for him to be his son in law but I think he just wanted to see him squirm a bit, silly dad.. 🙂
**I did not know he asked my dad when I was on my business trip until after the proposal!**
Post # 6
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Helper bee
@pinkkathryn: Woops! I fixed it now. What a great story, btw! That was very ballsy of him! Lol
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
@bridetobee16: Short answer no, but he had intended to (and held on to my ring for a while building up the courage to ask them!) but I inadvertently (without knowing that’s what he was planning) told him they would never expect it and wouldn’t mind either way, and neither would I! so he didn’t, and popped the question a few days after that conversation! And I’m actually kinda glad coz it meant that when we told them, it was a complete surprise! I loved hearing their reaction 🙂
Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
I was 22 and DH was 27 when we got engaged!
He absolutely did ask for permission! My Dad is very old school, and made it pretty clear that was a basic expectation for him.
Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
@bridetobee16: Getting the parents’ blessing was really important to me. Had FI proposed to me, he knew I wanted him to ask in the way that’s traditional for my family and where we’re from. The man sends a representative on his behalf to ask for the blessing.
However, I decided to propose to him and, while they don’t care too much about it, I still wanted to ask. He and I were both 21. I went to our hometown for some reason when FI had to stay up at school. While down there, I arranged to meet them for lunch, ninja paid for their meal. Then when conversation turned close enough to our relationship and the future, I asked them. Basically I just said that it may seem strange that I’m the one doing all this, but that it would mean a lot to have their blessing to ask FI to marry me. They were just like, Uh…yea? I mean, it’s not really up to us, you have to ask him if it’s ok to marry you, but you’re already family as far as we’re concerned.
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
I’m not that young – I’m 26 and my FI is 33 – but he still asked. It meant a lot to them and to me.
Post # 11
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Honey bee
No, we didn’t think it was necessary. I was 24 and he was 26. We had been on our own financially/living together for 6 years and had been dating for 9 years. My parents knew and loved my DH at the time and were expecting us to get married soon anyway.
Post # 12
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Blushing bee
I guess I’m on the verge of “young” but I’m 25 and FI is too. He asked my dad because back when we were 17 I said my dad would probably appreciate being asked. I can’t beleive he remembered after all those years! It was more for my dad than for me, but it helped my dad feel special/connected. My dad said he didn’t know people did that anymore lol.
FI’s parents live a block away from mine, so it was really easy for FI to stop by one day when he was seeing his own parents to ask my dad.
Post # 13
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Bumble bee
@bridetobee16: I’m 23 and he was 24, and no he didn’t ask. So I don’t have a story to share, sorry!
Post # 14
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Busy bee
My FI was 25 at the time I was 23, we had moved in together earlier that year. I thought he went home to visit his parents, but in reality he went to my parents house and only my dad was home he asked my dad and then my dad said he could go home since my mom wouldn’t be home from work for another few hours but he insisted he ask her in person also. They waited and chatted for my mom and he asked her when she got home 🙂
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
I was only 20 and he was 21 or 22. He called my dad and asked if he could bring his car over because he had a question about it. Then he came over and asked my dad and my dad cried. Aww. He asked before he had a ring purchased or anything.
A few weeks later, we were visiting my mom and he told her of his intentions while I was in the shower. My mom started crying (happy tears! lol) so much she had to go to the store to collect herself because otherwise I would have seen her puffy cry face when I got out of the shower lol
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
@bridetobee16: my FI told me after he proposed that he called my bio dad, my dad, and my brother to ask for their blessings. he said he was so nervous asking 3 different people, but it was so sweet that he did that
