Young child knowing something he definitely should not.

posted 2 years ago in Parenting
Post # 2
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Helper bee

If he lied to the babysitter that he got the info from you, how can you know he isn’t lying to you about his mom and Jason? Not saying mom and Jason are not the culprits, just that I would probably want to have a calm sit down amongst all adults involved and not go guns blazing at mom and Jason since your info came from a 5 year old who has already lied once about the same subject. 

I don’t have kids, but I hear some of the most outlandish things from nieces/nephews and from my coworkers repeating stories about crazy things their kids say. He could have picked up the terms from school or day care, other kids, playing in the park, watching a tv show outside his age range. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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summerrose5 :  “My SO partakes sometimes outside once he is asleep.” — Yeah, when I was 5 my mom also partook sometimes outside while I was asleep. How do I know? Because I saw her. Many times. You think parents see everything? No, KIDS see everything. He might have picked it up from his mom, from your SO, or from any number of other places. You all need to sit down and calmly talk about it. Or they could just quit smoking weed, that’s another option.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

If you SO smokes, too, it is kind of the pot calling the kettle black. You can claim all you want that it’s different because he’s not driving, or because the child is asleep (though as a PP pointed out, in bed doesn’t necessarily mean asleep), but he doesn’t have a leg to stand on. I don’t doubt what the child has seen/experienced, but those who live in glass houses…

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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summerrose5 :  well your SO smokes weed too…. 

If you don’t want a five year old knowing about weed and being horrified that he knows the lingo……EVERY ADULT around him NEEDS to STOP SMOKING WEED!

Kids are not stupid and pick up on everything…. You can’t feign disbelief when the kids dad gets stoned as soon as the kids asleep. The kid probably has more brain cells than his parents who have killed them off through recreational drug taking. SorryNotSorry

Driving stoned is a criminal offence where I live and I find it disgusting that people drive stoned and put others in danger. These people a scum because if they dont care about the safety of other people on the road they should at least care about not putting their child in danger by driving stoned with them in the car. (Not to  mention subjecting the kid second hand smoke 😬)

 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Agree with the 3 posters above. OP you are always so quick and so keen to point fingers at the boy’s mum for everything…now its smoking weed… yet you guys are doing the exact same thing!!?? Hypocritical. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

You framed your concern around the boy knowing the terminology about the illegal activity which you admit your boyfriend takes part in. 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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summerrose5 :  how do you think you are going to prove this in legal situation? You can request drug tests of both the mother and her boyfriend to prove she is doing drugs but they can do the same with your boyfriend who partakes as well. You have no legal leg to stand on because your boyfriend does drugs too and a drug test will prove that.

If your boyfriend cares so much about the welfare of his child, then he needs to be a responsible parent and be clean too. He can’t chase her with a pitchfork for drugs if he does them too. It doesn’t work that way… 

 

Post # 12
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Honey bee

I strongly recommend that you delete this post and talk to an attorney. I would also recommend not posting online about this child and your SO (particularly any illegal activities) until this is all resolved. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

A 5 year old’s version of the truth is questionable especially when they change their story. Since most the adults in his life partake he probably doesn’t know where he learned terminology. 

 

Remember at first he said it was you & when you confronted him he changed this… you told him he wouldn’t be in trouble but he is 5 so…

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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summerrose5 :  tbh, i think you handled this all wrong. You made a HUGE deal out of something that a 5 year old likely doesn’t have any conception of it being a huge deal or not. Of course you don’t want him going around saying that, but until you’re heard it multiple times, it’s best to just ignore it. There’s a big gap between repeating and undertanding. And likely he has no actual conception of drugs and what all that means, etc. 

and tbh, unless there turns out to be a real problem here (like abuse, child endangerment, etc) i honestly don’t see weed as any worse than booze (and actually more benign). How is this really different from saying “my mommy wants a glass of wine!”?

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