Young child knowing something he definitely should not.

posted 2 years ago in Parenting
Post # 31
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

How about anyone with a child present STOPS SMOKING WEED?

You wanna smoke, wait till he’s with mom or in daycare or something. Mom and Jason need to abstain too when he’s in their care. This isn’t hard.

 

Post # 32
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Busy bee

This really comes down to conflicting parenting, then. It’s like if his mom wants to teach him about sex, or let him watch R rated movies…if there’s no laws against it, it just goes against your/SO’s personal morals. Unless you’d be able to make a legal case that she’s an unfit parent for exposing her child to inapproriate things (Or endangering him, if she’s DUI), then the only thing you can do is ask her nicely to stop and hope she respects y’all’s concerns. Regardless, be blunt (no pun intended) with the child and tell him that smoking weed is an adult activity and it’s not appropriate for him to talk about it yet.  

Post # 33
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Honey bee

 

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kiram :  Driving while smoking weed is a different parenting style???

Post # 34
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Busy bee

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zl27 :  I thought the main concern was the child’s exposure to and knowledge of weed. DUI is another thing completely, of course

Post # 35
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Sugar bee

With the driving part aside (which is definitely the worst part) rolling and smoking blunts in front of your kid is kind of like shotgunning beers and doing keg stands in front of him. You smoke blunts to get HIGH, the way you shot gun beers to get DRUNK. Then there’s also the issue of second hand smoke which kids shouldn’t be exposed to. It’s a more subjective issue, but it’s just not teaching responsible habits of consumption in moderation. 

Post # 36
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Helper bee

There’s a huge difference in having a smoke outside when your child isn’t present (you can never be sure he doesn’t see believe me) than smoking whilst driving in front if the child. Regardless of whether it is the same as drinking or not it shouldn’t be done whilst incharge of a car!! 

There will always be conflicts when co-parenting, you can’t be hypocritical when dealing with the other parents and come across like you are in the right all the time. Stay calm when dealing with each other it’s the best way to deal with these things.

Post # 37
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

It seems like there are a lot of people who are commenting whose understanding of cannabis is as accurate as that old Reefer Madness film- which is to say, inaccurate and hysterical. 

OP- I hope you and your SO have a sit down with this child’s mother to get on the same page about what kinds of behaviors are in alignment with her stated intention to do better by her son and which behaviors are shades of her same past behaviors. Hopefully, you can come to an agreement. I think it’s also really important that it remains clear to your SOs son that it’s not bad that he said something and that you want him to speak honestly. It would he terrible if he got the idea that by being honest, he got his mother in trouble and then he gets in the habit of hiding what she’s doing- which is all too common for children of addicts.

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