Post # 1
So me and my fiance have run in a big problem. My parents, who are paying for the wedding, told us no kids were going to be invited. Originally this sounded fine especially since many of our friends were not going to bring their children anyways. However, my fiance has a younger family than I do, which includes some cousins between the ages of 12 and 26. Most of the cousins will not be coming anyways, but I feel as though they should still be invited as they are family. My parents are of the opinion that family friends will be upset if they are not allowed to bring their children when there will be cousins of almost the same age present. I think this is ridiculous as there is a difference between family members who happen to be younger and family friend’s children who we don’t really know. HELP!!! Any thoughts or advice on how to handle this and the correct etiquette???
Post # 3
We are having a kids and teens reception (at at suite in the hotel) for the guests under 18 that will be in town. We are going to order pizza, have an ice cream sundae buffet, and two friends of my brothers (he is in college) will site for the kids at their own party. Then everyone feels involved but no kids are there for the adult reception (also a request of my parents) and then we dont have to pay as much $$ per head to have them included. Not to mention I think they really will have more fun “partying” with the other kids than they would have with us at the adult reception, and it is a nice break for their parents. 🙂
Post # 4
I believe all family should be invited (especially since none of his cousins are very young). Children of friends do not need to be regardless of age.
Post # 5
I don’t see why you’d have a problem inviting your FI’s cousins! Family friends shouldn’t be upset. You are obviously way closer to your FI’s cousins than the kids of some family friends.
The only thing I’d add is don’t ever tell any of these people that the wedding is “adults only” or “no kids”. When you say to the family friends it is adults only and then they arrive and there are children, they very well might be ticked. Just inform them (if the ask if they can bring their kids) that due to space constraints you aren’t able to include their children but you hope that they (the adults) will still be able to attend.
Post # 6
I’m in a similar situation, only it’s reversed. My family is much younger than his, and we’re all pretty close so my younger cousins are definitely on the invite list. The problem comes when he reveals that his family thinks his cousins’ kids should be invited….yikes! – I’ve maybe met his cousins once, let alone their kids! The guest list is by FAR the biggest headache in wedding planning, IMO. Good luck!