Post # 32
So… you’re not even a senior in high school yet? And if you’ve only been dating since freshman year, then you haven’t even been together very long…
Where do you live that this is typical? The Mormon communities in my state get married very young, but I think most at least wait to get out of high school.
I guess unless you are military, international, or waiting to have sex and make babies, then I don’t see the point in marrying so young.
Post # 33
I would wait until after college.
Post # 34
I don’t know of any. Maybe some grandparents but I don’t really think that counts (that’s a completely different time). My parents didn’t get married until around 24 and didn’t have me until 30. DH’s parents got married around 20 or 21 and had 4 kids and then got divorced.
I know some people that were married younger (20-24) and a good portion ended up divorced but some are still together. I’m almost 30 so I’ve witnessed this among my peer group.
Post # 35
My friends got married at 18 and 19 but because she was pregnant. they’re still married and have another kid but it’s not the best marriage in the world, in my opinion. I’m not sure if it’s an age issue or more of an issue that they didn’t really know eachother too well before getting married.
Another friend got married at 19 but the guy was 26. They have a great relationship and both are really great people but very mature. I honestly forget she’s 20 because she acts and carries herself like she’s 25.
DH and I didn’t marry until we were 22 but have been together since 17. Honestly, we both grew up SO MUCH in those few years and thankfully, grew together instead of apart. When I look back now, I don’t think we would still be together if we married at 18 or even 20. We were both such different people and IDK if getting married that young would have made us grow apart or resent each other.
hell, I’m a different person than I was at 22! But the one thing that has stayed the same if that I love DH and he loves me and that’s kind of awesome to think back on.
Post # 36
@rodeoidahochic: My grandparents were 18 and 19 when they got married. Been together 59 years and are still so in love. It’s quite an inspiration. When I was there for Christmas I brought up their “big” anniversay for next year, and my grandma without missing a beat said “60 years already? I guess I hadn’t realized it was so long. Feels like only yesterday.”
That being said, I don’t know of hardly any modern day young love stories. I do know of two couples who were both 22 and 23, each has been married 10 years and going strong.
It’s not about the age of the couple, but the maturity. That’s one reason I think people wait so long to get married these days, they are not mature enough to take on something so important as marriage. That and they are waiting to find “the one”. To quote the movie the five year engagement “cookie monster is trying to find the right cookie” “elmo thinks cookie should just pick one and take a bite”. The guy may not be perfect, but hey, neither are you. It’s all about making it work.
Post # 37
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
I do not know anyone who got married that young. Well, one older lady who finally got divorced after 25 years.
Post # 38
Not counting my grandparents who all married very, very young:
My aunt married her husband straight out of college and almost 30 years and 3 beautiful daughters later, they are still married and quite happy together. Do they have flaws and problems? Sure, most couples do, but they are a great pair.
My Future In-Laws also got engaged their Junior year of college and married right after graduation, 26 years later and they are just as happy and content as the day they started dating.
Ironically, I don’t know a single couple in real life who is in a happy marriage/still married who tied the knot after the age of 25…
Post # 39
Ive been with my husband since I was 18 ( he was 29, yah yah i know big age difference but whatever). Im now 23, we’ve had 2 kids together, were married last august and are now expecting our third little baby =D Honestly I couldnt be happier with our relationship. BUT it doesnt work for everyone. Ive seen several of my friends get engaged and break up months later. Only one of my friends has made it to wedding planning and her wedding is comming up in june( yay!!), and their relationship seems pretty stable ( i live in a different city so we dont get to see them much). I think the biggest problem getting married young is that your personality doesnt fully develop until you are about 25. So you can be one person at 20 and a completely different person by 25. You can see where that could cause problems in a relationship. It all depends on the couple, the relationship, expectations and of corse tollerance, and acceptance. Do what feels right, but expect the unexpected, good luck darling.
Post # 40
I know a couple who were married 8 or 9 years ago when she was 18 and he was 20 or 21, they are still together and very happy.
My best friend and her husband were 22, their 5th anniversary is coming up and they have to be the best suited/happiest couple I know.
I am friends with two other couples who were somewhere in their early 20’s and are coming up on 8 years now.
I was 20, DH was 22 when we got married, it will be 7 years in may! We started dating when I was 18. I do think being super young and married is hard, people tend to change a lot in their 20’s, but I do not think that you are “doomed” if you get married youung, Everyone is different!
Post # 41
A couple of friends from high school got married at 18, their marriages are still going strong over five years later.
Post # 42
I know alot of people who got married out of highschool. Out of all of them only two girls i know are still happily married. I guess some marriages are ment to work out and some are not no matter what age.
Post # 43
FI’s grandmother was 19 when they got married (not sure how old his grandfather was, but a few years older). They just celebrated their 65th wedding anniversary.
That said, times are very, very different. Most of the people I know in my generation who got married in their late teens are no longer with their spouse.
Post # 44
I wish everyone would post their location/region when they give their experiences!! It blows my mind that people know MANY couples who married so young!
My grandparents didn’t marry until late 20s which is SUPER unusual for the time ( 1930s-40s), my mom and dad didn’t get married until late 20s ( mom was 28, dad was 30)
I am the first and only one of my friends to be engaged (most of them have bfs of more than 2+ years), and I will be 26 by the time I get married in Sept!! This thread is making me feel old! haha 🙂
Post # 45
Very interesting, thanks for posting!
Post # 46
it’s great that there are success stories, but those are the exception to the rule. The divorce rate of teen marriages is so high. How will you support yourself? Working full time and going to school is really really hard. Why not wait until you can be finically stable? Sorry, but if you love someone and you want to get married, waiting a few years extra is small potatoes compared to how long you will be together for in total. I only know 1 couple that is still married, all the rest that got married in their teens are divorced and not I good places. I’m not trying to be mean, just honest!