(Closed) Young women should spend more time searching for husbands than planning careers

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

 This whole thing just sounds so…old fashioned.  I know many people have married people their own age, women that make more than their husbands, and most shocking of all most of marrying despite having access to all that free milk. 

Articles like this make me feel bad for guys actually.  I mean come on, lets give them a little credit.

Post # 33
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1186 posts
Bumble bee

@TwoStatesBride:  welcome to my world. My parents saved up money for a wedding account for me, but didn’t save anything for college for me.

Ugh. I now have a bachelors degree, an associates degree RN, and an EMT certificate and went through LPN school. Still not married. 

I am constantly asked about why I’m not married when I go home. No one ever asks me about my career in emergency nursing.

Post # 34
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1166 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

So, younger women should date older men established in their careers… I bet “Susan Patton” is the pen name of some lonely forty-something (not that that is old, but older than the 21 year old “husband hunting woman” suggested by the article) successful man longing for a young dumb woman.  

 

Post # 35
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

No. 

Post # 36
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106 posts
Blushing bee

I don’t like this lol. There are some valid points, but I think the overall message should be about “balance” and not letting one aspect of your life squeeze out other important ones.  Why on earth can’t women do both?  I met my now fiance in college (senior year lol) and then four days after I told him I was moving across the country! Things worked out, but I wouldn’t put my future plans on hold for anyone. And so fortunately it did work out and the move benefited BOTH of our careers, and we will move again to a new city so I can start medical school. I think balance should be the focus of the article, not about catching men in a snare before you graduate. 

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

The tone of these types of articles always loses me within the first few paragraphs

Nothing more to add here that hasn’t been said other than that it still shocks me how unable people are to “live and let live.”

Finding your own key to happiness in your own life, does not mean that you have the key to happiness for every other life on the planet. Sheesh.

It’s always “you need to get married to X type of man, at X time, for X reason, because of blah biddy blah”

Whatever happened to getting married when you find the right spouse for yourself??

 

Post # 38
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385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I agree with what she says in the article in a very basic way-EXCEPT for this part.

“Those men who are as well-educated as you are often interested in younger, less challenging women.”

What a load of utter horsecrap. Why would any woman want to marry a man who is THAT shallow? That he can’t handle a woman who is as smart as he is and that maybe we should all just be ditzy ninnies to attract a man. 

Honestly, men who choose a mate based on her lower intellectual capacity are gonna get bored with that REAL fast. As far as I know people marry someone because they can both talk and communicate on the same level. I could NOT marry a guy who I felt was dumber than I am. As far as I know, my male friends feel the same way.

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Frankly, I don’t believe that this article warrants or is worth any kind of response from me other than me flipping it off.

Post # 41
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1987 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m glad I listened to Destiny’s Child in “Independent Women” instead of people like this.

Also, most of the men I know with terminal degrees are married to women with terminal degrees, and the ones who cheat on their wives with younger female students pick smart students. 

Post # 42
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Blushing bee

@EffieTrinket:  at least this is saying 30 is the expiration age, my cousin’s wife told my sister (and inferred about me) that we both “need to settle down and start having babies because our eggs are already shriveling up and dying….” yeah, I’m 26 and this was 6-9 months ago, and notice the quotes, I’m not even exaggerating, that is how she said it!!

Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@TwoStatesBride:  I thought the article was really dumb and that the comments supporting it were maddening. I really feel like if a person, man or woman really wants to get married, even if things like career are important to them, then they will get married or make that commitment to another person. I’m sure some people do end up having their regrets about the one that got away though.

I also thought it was interesting that the article kept talking about women finding men, as if we don’t live in a climate where people who are not straight are getting married and settled down too.

I read the article a few days ago so it’s not fresh in my head, but I felt like it was both an insult to men and women. I vaguley remember a mention that college men aren’t even thinking about marriage. That’s just not true. It may not be the norm, but I’ve seen a good handful of college weddings and while guys may be ragged on for it, some of them really are thinking about marriage or maybe they just do when they meet the right person.

Post # 45
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

This is all well and good early on. But 2 decades later, he is gonna start lookin’ like he is  your daddy. Lol!

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