(Closed) Young young bride

posted 6 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Um, I don’t think this thread is gonna go the way you want. Have you read past ones like this? My question is, if you’re from Utah, who is telling you that? I get that in Utah it’s normal, so I’m not gonna judge you for what is essentially a cultural difference, just trying to understand. 🙂

Post # 4
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1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I never got told that, but if you’re secure in your decision just keep your head high and ignore it.

Post # 5
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529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I was young when I got married, I was 21 years old…whew….lol. I got the same thing, I think people don’t say it to be mean. I just think peopole think you should live a little before you get married. To be honest, I wish I did…..I got married at 21 and had a baby at 22. I wish I would have enjoyed my 20’s before I “settled down”, but at the same token….I’m still married to the sam guy today. Ten years later, we are renewing our vows in January. It’s your decision though, you have to do what’s best for you and don’t worry about what other people say, because they will do what they want to do, not taking in consideration what you think about it. I’ve learned this about people, as long as you are happy, nothing else matters! 🙂 Good Luck!!!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

In my opinion, if you are secure in that decision then there’s no reason to justify it on here. There’s no shame in choosing your choice but you have to own it to be taken seriously. 

Post # 9
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1036 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

its your life and you gotta do what makes you happy. thats all.

Post # 10
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37 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yes. Fiance and I are 20, pretty much every vendor has said something.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

People told me that too the first time around. They were right.

That doesn’t mean they are always right, though, but I do generally ascribe to the “what’s the rush?” side of things. If your family and friends aren’t supportive, that should give you pause and you should try to really give their concerns some consideration. If it’s just random people, you can ignore it. They don’t know you and are making assumptions based on age.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

@alishaloo:  People say this because they have perspective that you don’t have.  You are at an age that you just don’t know what it is that you don’t know.  Getting married that young comes with a lot of challenges, but the ones that make it end up with a beautiful testimony of the power of love and commitment.  My good friend got married when she was twentyone.  Eleven years later, they are still happily married.  She openly admits that she is leary of people getting married so young because she has learned from experience what they were all trying to tell her.  Does she regret getting married so young?  Not at all.  If people are going to show concern, they should at least try to be supportive of your choice and help you through.  As long as you go into it committed to seeking counsel and to making it a great marriage, you guys will have what it takes to make a great marriage.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

As long as you have an education (at least can spell and write basic vocab words to get by in the real world) and a plan of action that is actually realistic for both you and your Fiance, then I dont see a problem.

However, if you dont have the basics and sound or act immature, I’m going to say you’re too immature or too young. 

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