(Closed) Young young bride

posted 8 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 17
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1975 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

people will always think that their unasked for opinions need to be heard just smile and nicely say “we dont think we are too young”

and yes i only just turned 21 (3 weeks ago) so i know exactly what your going through

Post # 19
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I feel if a couple is mature enough and really believe waiting would be pointless then go for it-my Fiance and I started dating when we were 16 and 17 and we’ll be 26 and 27 when we get married. If we were married at a younger age I think it would have felt like we were really not ready because we were always in school of some kind and now we’re more settled.

Just curious, do you have a formal education to be able to interpret? Sorry for the sidebar but this worries me as an interpreter myself since it takes a lot more than knowing the language to be an effective interpreter. Feel free to PM me to avoid derailing this thread!

Post # 20
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314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Let me tell you something. 20 years old is way way way way way too young to be getting married… for me. For you it seems to be just the right age. At 20 I didn’t want to get married (even though I was with my now Fiance and wanted to marry him…. just not yet). Most people automatically think of themselves when judging the relationship of others. If they were too young at 20 or wish they had waited, then they will most likely assume you’re the same way. You just need to say “Okay” and move on with whatever you’re doing. If your relationship ends poorly, they’ll just consider you another sterotype. If your relationship succeeds they will just call you a “success story”. Leave the labeling to them and get on with your own life.

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think 1: people should mind their own business and 2: some do genuinely care about you and want to make sure you’re making the right choice.

I am getting married at 32 years old but we started out VERY young.  We’ve been together since high school and have 3 kids.  I know people who started out at the “right” age by society’s standards and didn’t make it so who is to say what age is the “right” age anyway.  Yes, there are some that are too young (in age and/or mentally) and rush into marriage and parenting before they are truly ready.  But if you are 100% secure in your decision, then you should not have to justify your choice.  

Post # 23
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Bee Keeper

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@SakuraBlossomBee:  Cosigned, this is pretty much exactly what I was going to say. When people say “20 is too young to be married” they mean “I wasn’t ready to be married at 20.” They’re projecting their experiences on to you. Smile, thank them for their concern, and move on.

Post # 26
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

PM’ed the OP so as not to threadjack.

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@alishaloo:  Are you typing on a phone?

Post # 28
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

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@ohmybears48:  I am wondering the same.

Post # 30
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

You’re going to have a tough time interpreting with a two year degree. Starting this year, RID is requiring interpreters to have a bachelor’s to be nationally certified. You can be certified in some states without national certification, but the skills you’ll learn with a two year degree won’t prepare you for that. Your teachers/program aren’t telling you that because that information would make their program obsolete. Most people who graduate from two year interpreting programs try to get into the field, have a lot of trouble, and realize that they need to go back for their bachelor’s. Depending on what type of interpreting you’d like to do, you may or may not be able to support you and your fiance.

 

As a rule of thumb, everything is going to be harder than you expect it to be. 

Post # 31
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Blushing bee

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@LadyMonster:  As a rule of thumb, everything is going to be harder than you expect it to be.


That’s some excellent life advice right there. 🙂

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