(Closed) Younger Bees, have you heard of Grass Is Greener Syndrome? Have you experienced

posted 6 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 122
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Worker bee

Men don’t usually fake emotion. he can’t read your feelings… You need to tell him straightford that his leaving during an argument hurts you… Maybe he’s thinks that’s best. During your convo last night I would venture to bet he was completely heartfelt. And that you’re scared. It’s okay. 

He sounds like he truly loves you. Why would you want to leave that? For a feeling that you need to date other guys? That won’t make you happier.

Post # 123
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

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gsdogs:  Are you reading the same thread the rest of us are???

Post # 124
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Busy bee

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DoubleA903:  I really feel for you and am wishing you the best <3 it sounds like a very complicated situation with a lot of factors weighing in.  You should extremely caring, smart, strong, and level headed.  I am sure you will work out a solution that makes you happy in the long run… even if it feels horrible in the moment.  

Post # 125
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Busy bee

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DoubleA903:  I am a lurker who created an account just so I could reply to you 🙂 I got married at 23 to the guy I had dated since I was 19.  Like you, I had questions before the wedding, mostly related to my lack of dating experience.  Needless to say, we got divorced 3 years later.  I wish we had never got married – because I had questions that turned out to be right.  And now, at 33, I’m planning to marry my wonderful BF and wishing it was my first (and only) marriage.  The growing and living that I did after my divorce let me figure out who I really was, and what I really wanted out of life.  If you’re having these feelings, I would say definitely postpone, if not outright cancel, the wedding.  GOOD LUCK!!!

Post # 128
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Helper bee

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DoubleA903:  you absolutely did the right thing. Not that it means much, but I am proud of you. 

Post # 129
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Busy Beekeeper

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DoubleA903:  You definitely did the right thing! I have such a clear vision of what you’re going through right now…this is one of the hardest parts. The packing of bags, the other person in hysterics…it is all simply horrific. But the sun will come up tomorrow. You are very strong and brave, and you know in your gut you’ve made the right decision.

Post # 131
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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DoubleA903:  Just want you to know that I’ve been following your thread and I think you’re doing the right thing! I went through something similar years ago with my high school sweetheart and it was so difficult at the time but I am so happy with Fiance now. Stay strong!

Post # 134
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Helper bee

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DoubleA903:  Other than your parents, you should enlist a close friend or family member to tell people. I think you need to make a clean break so this doesn’t drag on any longer than it already has. The more this drags on, the harder is going to be for you, so just cut contact, move out and move on. You’ll feel so much relief after you do that.  Good luck bee! 

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