- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
My fiance and I have been together for well over 3 years now. However, we just recently got engaged due to financial issues on his part he finally was able to resolve. He has one brother who is 5 years younger than us both. His brother got engaged to his fiancee about 7 months ago. However, we will be getting married first. We wanted a summer wedding, and they want a fall wedding.
As I stated earlier, because of our situation it made it impossible for my fiancee to purchase the most perfect ring until just recently. We’ve known for quite some time now that even though we didn’t have a ring, we would be getting married this coming summer. We ended up finding the most perfect place, out of town, for our reception and with his parents’ approval and mine, we booked our reception site before we had officially announced we were engaged…we wanted to wait until we had the ring for fear of closed minds not understanding our relationship. We also waited to actually book our venue until his brother and fiance had set a date themselves. They ended up picking October, which made us feel good about our early August date, so we booked.
Let me also add we’ve discussed with and in front many of his family members, we would be getting married this upcoming summer because we would like to start a family–but not until we’re married. I’m 29 and he’s 30. Time’s a ticking!!
With all this said, we were finally informed his brother’s fiancee (just turned 23) is so upset our wedding is two months prior to theirs. I called her and apologized for her hurt feelings, but explained to her why we were doing this and our wedding is about us, and their wedding should be about them. We are going approximately 2 hours out of town, while they will have their wedding here in town. We’re still having a hard time wrapping our minds around why she is so upset (other than she is still very young and immature) other than the fact she just wants to be “first.”
Also, their mother has agreed that their engagement was “a bit rushed” and happened much quicker than it would have normally due to their unexpected pregnancy after 5 months of dating.
My fiancee and I have agreed we will not let this one person, who we aren’t very close with anyway, put a damper on our day, and we have nothing to feel bad about. I guess I’m just trying to get more insight on her selfish “I want to be first!” attitude. It’s so hard for me to understand her perspective when all I can think about is how special this time is for me and my man! Shouldn’t she be focused on the same, or am I really missing something here?