- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
No kiddos here but I WILL be an older mom if I ever do get pregnant. One of my customers at work told me she had to do fertility treatments to get PG…worked both times…twins each time but she did lose one, so she has 3 kids. She was 45 when she had the last set. She’s mid 50s now.
Another coworker was 40 and 42 when she had her kids and I honestly had no idea she is early 60s…I would’ve guessed 52 max. So we were talking and the customer mentioned to me (I’ve told her our IVF plans) that she feels like being an older mom is easier.
She has plenty of life experience so she doesn’t worry about her kids the way the younger moms do…she specifically cited an instance where a 20-something mom was freaking out b/c her kid wasn’t a child prodigy at 5. She said the younger mom felt like a failure and she told her “not every kid is gonna be a prodigy.”
She mentioned financial stability. She has her degrees, worked, saved, and now can be a Stay-At-Home Mom and enjoy raising her kids. She said most of the younger moms are working PT just to make ends meet or trying to finish their degrees and feel like they are missing out on raising their kids.
She said a lot of people told her she wouldn’t have as much energy when she was older. She said she didn’t have that much energy when she was younger and it hasn’t changed at all…at least for her. She knows lots of young moms that complain they don’t have the energy either…but she stated she thinks ALL of us are just more busy in this day and age.
She mentioned (and this makes sense b/c we’re overseas) that the younger moms feel they can’t travel w/LOs and miss out on a lot. She said she’s seen and done everything she’s wanted. I have to agree b/c a lot of friends (our age) with LOs said they wished they’d waited to have kids until after being here…as in constantly complain to us after we come back from some trip that they “wish” they could travel. I just tell them I’d happily give them our trips if they’ll give me their kids 😉 So far, no takers!
The other woman completely agreed with her. They also said all kids think their parents are OLD so even their kids’ friends think their (20s) parents are OLD. That is funny!
I’m not bashing young moms here b/c I wanted to be one but it wasn’t in the cards. I do hear a lot of bashing of the older moms however and have been told by women my age w/teens that they would NEVER consider TTC a first child at this age. I’m wondering if any of you know “older” moms and how it’s different for them compared to the younger ones.