Post # 1
I am having a hard time deciding what to do as far as my FI’s siblings being in the bridal party. I have a younger brother who will be 10yrs old at the time of the wedding which I feel is too old for a ring bearer, and too young to be a groomsmen. I figure he wouldbe happy to be an usher. That isn’t necessarily the difficult decision. The hard one comes with my FI’s three brothers. They are ages 21, 19, and 16. My Fiance has a close relationship with his youngest brother, but I don’t really want to have a 16yr old in the wedding party. It’s just hard to draw the line. The non-related groomsmen are the same age as my Fiance around 26, and I just feel like it would be strange. Oh, and none of my bridesmaids are younger than 23.
Would making him an usher be a cop out? Anyone have similar issues or suggestions so that his youngest brother can still be/feel included?
Post # 3
I don’t know… it seems to me he should get to be a groomsman if the 21 and 19-yr old get to be groomsmen. I also thought the groom made decisions about who the groomsmen would be, but maybe y’all are doing it all together.
Why exactly do you not want a 16 yr old in the wedding party? He could always skip the bachelor party, or whatever else isn’t convenient for a teenage guy. Are you worried about the pictures looking weird?
We had three under-21s in our wedding party (DH’s brother, age 19, my sister, age 20, and my other sister, age 11). It was actually really convenient because they drove their cars to/from the reception, and the rest of the wedding party rode with them and didn’t have to worry about drinking at the reception. I just couldn’t imagine not having my sisters as bridesmaids, ever the littlest one!
Post # 4
you could get him to do a reading during the ceremony. Your groom really should have the final say as to who the groomsmen are