(Closed) Younger sister getting married before older!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

That is so weird. I’m the oldest girl, but I have an older brother and nobody asked me if he had weird feelings about me “beating him to the alter” so to speak.

PS–he’s thrilled. His complaint with me is he always liked the guys I dated and never got to pull the scary big brother act.

Post # 4
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3241 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@angelheart:  I’m the older sibling and my sister was married well before I was, in fact when she was married I was in grad school. From my perspective I can tell you I was extremely happy for her and my Brother-In-Law. I had other goals at the time, so I wasn’t mad/upset/unhappy about her getting married before me. It’s about meeting the right person, not who gets there first……in my opinion anyway.

Congrats on your engagement! 🙂

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA

My sister is a year and a half younger than me, and just got engaged.  (i’m not engaged yet).  Whenever i mention my sister is engaged, people say “isn’t she younger??  wow….how do you feel about that?”  I’m just like SERIOUSLY??  I don’t understand why it matters, it’s super annoying though.  I’m so happy for her, she’s been with her fiance for about 6 years.  I haven’t even been with my bf for 2 years.  People are so funny…. 🙂

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would not worry about it. People always ask strange questions around weddings. I am the oldest of 4 and I am the 3 to get married.

I am glad to have waited. Most people will ask questions based upon how they are feeling. So maybe it would bother them if their younger sis got married first.

It had only bothered me at the time because I was in a bad relationship and was upset with my situation and wished that I had what they had had.

Post # 7
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Just let their comments roll off your shoulder.  You did nothing wrong getting engaged first, people do not necessarily get married in birth order.

Post # 8
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7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

As long as your sister isn’t upset, then just let the comments slide and keep answering them the way that you have been.  I’m the youngest of 3 kids and the only one to get married so far, but I’m also the only girl so I’m sure it’s different.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

This is so weird and I don’t like the connotation to it – like your sister should be offended by your life circumstances. Honestly, I say each to their own, so as long as your sister really isn’t angry (which wouldn’t make sense) I would just let the comments slide. She’s doing her own thing and people should realized that you are doing yours!

Post # 10
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1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think that you should just brush off those comments.  It bothered me when people asked, beause it was true..my older (by 18 months) sister told me that she was jealous of me, and was a miserable maid of honor.  It sucked.  She does say now that she was/still is ‘happy for me’ but never holds back from saying she was jealous that her younger sister got married before her. She had been in a serious relationship and they broke up right when I got engaged, so she had been going through a rough love life.

Post # 11
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4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

People love to stir up drama. A good way to do that is to look for etiquette rules from years gone and try to create hard feelings about them. I ‘d probably just say that she was happy for me and leave it at that.

Post # 12
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2869 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m the younger sister and getting married before my older sister (who says she doesn’t believe in marriage but we shall see if she changes her mind) — I’m somewhat surprised, but nobody has commented on it (maybe because they aren’t surprised!)

Post # 14
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1572 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Im the middle of three girls, my older sister is also three years older than me…Im also the first to get married in my family. People were extremely annoying when asking that question,

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m the youngest out of three girls and when my Fiance and I announced our engagement and wedding date they both freaked out. They said that I should wait until BOTH of them are married. Now, neither of them had steady bf’s and are kind of members of the “Flavor of the Month Club.” I said that I would never be able to get married if that was the case. They both eventually got over it…I think. I’m thinking I’m going to be the only one to get married, but I KNOW that I’m going to be the only one with children.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@angelheart:  It’s not a race.

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